gillybob - I so understand how you feel. It took be 30 years to get our large garden 'perfect' (to my mind anyhow) and was hoping to sell to another gardener. But this did not happen - and our house is now a Kindergarten and the lovely owner is not interested at all in the garden- the conifer garden in the front has become a car-park and the conifers (large miniature specimen are soooo expensive) replanted in the corner have all died. I daren't imagine what the large back garden is now like. My only solace is that the pond has been securely fenced off rather than filled with concrete- and the current wilder aspect of the garden is actually great for the 100s of birds, blackbirds, song thrushes, every kind of tit, chaffinches, tawny owls, and so many more + hedgehogs. Onwards and forwards.
I do think that Frank is trolling half the time.