Missing my dad

Sounds good to me absent

Shall we go and abuse some of the people who gave me abuse. Most of them are widowed.

The loss of my mum 7 years ago was fraught with emotional turmoil as she was not an easy lady at all. I really quite envy those who have untainted memories and can look back without guilt andwhose sadness has a simple quality.

My father died 5days after my daughter was born. She is 39 next week. My mother was a widow for over 30years, a bit like Queen Victoria but no John Brown.
I suddenly feel very old when I think of that tiny baby with jet black curly hair and long black eyelashes who is now expecting her second child.
No, I don't feel old, I feel ANCIENT

Let's make tomorrow National Go Out and Abuse a Bereaved Stranger Day then.

Apologies to Anne09 for hijacking the hijack of this thread.

I agree with what you are saying but the only sympathy I had was from within the family and from outside I have mainly had abuse.
Probably if a few more people had abuse at these times they may realise what it is like.

Frank

HUNTERF This is a thread about grief, loss and mourning. It is not the place to talk about your inheritance again. Indeed, there probably isn't a place on Gransnet to talk about it yet again but I don't suppose that will stop you.

Unfortunately the passing of my dad was made a lot worse by people complaining I should have not inherited the estate.
It started the morning after its death and still happening over a year later.
I am wondering if people would like this to happen to them?.

Frank

I'm sure if you had a close loving relationship with your parents there will allways be times when you miss them, whatever your age. My Mum died 20 years ago and it makes me sad that she didn't see my girls grow up , she loved them so much .
Dad died nearly 2 years ago and is very much missed by all the family.
We talk about them often and remember the fun times and the love and security they gave us.
They live on in our hearts and I can see bits of them in myself, my brother, my niece and nephew, my three DDs even in my DGS.

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It's a year next month since my lovely Dad died and I often think about him and miss his sense of humour.
I watched a film with my gs a couple of weeks ago, when he wasn't well, called "Up".
The old man in the film was called Mr Frederickson (my dad was called Fred), and he was just like Dad.
It was so funny, we both said how much Grandad Fred would have laughed at it.....a lovely moment.

HUNTERF It's not a competition.

I know how you feel, my Dad died 19yrs ago. I still miss him and feel I want to tell him things. He missed seeing my son's grow into the lovely adults they have become. He also didn't get to see his great granddaughter, I know he would have really loved her and enjoyed her company.

My daughters and myself miss my Dad and Mum and their Mum.
My granddaughters miss my father as he was the oldest and really regarded as the senior member of the family but sadly my mother did not see my granddaughters.
I think my daughters miss the stories what my mother in law told them about what myself and their mother was like at school.
For some strange reason my granddaughters regarded my father as being the granddad of the family but I think they are beginning to adjust to me being the granddad.
I have been told several times I am probably in the worst position a widow could be in as I met my wife when I was 11 and never dated any other girl.

Frank

Remembering those who have died is important - and so is relishing the joy of those who are alive (like your wonderful GC). I am sure that this is what your father would have wanted you to do. Enjoy your lovely day with your family.

I miss both my parents and think about them a lot. They were in their 90s and died 1999 and 2000.

I can not remember the dates they died, I don't feel that is important. But I always think of them on their birthdays. It was strange when my mum died it felt very raw but when dad died a year letter it put me at peace because I felt they were together again as they were so very close.

DG suggested I call my new mini Mary after her which was sweet. They live through the generations and will always be in my heart.

Anne09 - I do feel for you. My mum died 17 years ago yesterday (it was acually Mothering Sunday, which was heartbreaking) and we were very close and saw each other, or spoke on the phone every day. Like you, I can't believe it is that long ago since we were together. When she died, my children were in their early teens, so the hustle and bustle of daily life helped enormously at the time. But even now, when something important happens, especially good news within the family, I miss being able to share it with her.

Anne09 Such anniversaries are always sad. My father died in February and was buried on his birthday at the beginning of March 34 years ago and I still feel especially conscious of his loss on those two dates. He didn't live to see his only granddaughter, never mind his five great grandchildren who, in their different ways, are living reminders of a very special man.