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My Dad has just died

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vegasmags Mon 05-Aug-13 15:10:12

My thoughts go out to you Mishap and to your dear old dad. flowers

Tegan Mon 05-Aug-13 15:10:05

Your mind will be inundated with long forgotten memories and you will feel like an orphan. It's good that he passed away peacefully flowers.

Gagagran Mon 05-Aug-13 15:09:53

Mishap condolences and kindest regards from me too. Such a blessing that he was able to go gently. What we would all like for ourselves and our loved ones.flowers

soop Mon 05-Aug-13 15:02:47

Mishap loving thoughts winging their way to you. flowers

MiceElf Mon 05-Aug-13 15:01:21

My sympathies, Mishap. It's a terrible grief to know that a dearly loved father has died, however old and ready to go. But you know you did your very best for him and that he had peace at the last.

Marelli Mon 05-Aug-13 14:58:42

Mishap, flowers. He felt safe and comfortable where he was. And that's what we all wish for towards the end of our days. xx

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gracesmum Mon 05-Aug-13 14:53:24

Every sympathy, Mishap flowers I am so pleased for you/him that he was not taken to hospital with all the paraphernalia that involves but died peacefully in bed from the sound of it, in his sleep. Not eating, sleeping much of the time - that is nature's way and for once it seems to have been left to take its course. Desperately sad for you and your family of course, but so much kinder to him in the end. When the body gives out, it is good to be able to let go. {{hug}} and flowers

glammanana Mon 05-Aug-13 14:52:27

Sympathy mishap so glad your dear Dad had some comfort in his final weeks,take good care of yourself.xx flowers

Galen Mon 05-Aug-13 14:39:40

Sympathy{{hugs}}flowers
So sad! Report the hospital!

Bags Mon 05-Aug-13 14:32:07

Take care of yourself, now, mishap. You did your best for your dad and, as you say, he was in good hands when he died. Takes me back to when my dad died, 20+ years ago. Tears in my eyes. Take care and grieve softly. You were a good daughter. xx flowers

Anne58 Mon 05-Aug-13 14:31:25

So sorry for your loss, but glad that his end was peaceful.

gillybob Mon 05-Aug-13 14:26:08

So sorry to hear your sad news Mishap. 93 is a wonderful acheivement though isnt it? flowers

whenim64 Mon 05-Aug-13 14:22:38

I'm very sorry to hear your sad news, Mishap. You did your very best for him, and I hope it is some comfort to you that he died in the residential home, with caring people around. flowers

glassortwo Mon 05-Aug-13 14:18:36

I am so sorry mishap you did your best to make him Happy in his new surroundings. flowers {{{hug}}}

sunseeker Mon 05-Aug-13 14:14:36

My deepest sympathies - at least you were able to find him a good and safe place to end his days flowers

janeainsworth Mon 05-Aug-13 14:13:16

I'm very sorry for your loss Mishap. You did so much for him -thank goodness your Dad was well cared-for in his last weeks flowers

Mishap Mon 05-Aug-13 14:09:13

Some of you may remember the saga of my poor 93 year old Dad and all the trials and tribulations he endured in hospital and with hopeless care at home over the last 6 months - and I was very grateful for all your very supportive posts.

I just thought I would let you know that he died at 11.30 this morning - thankfully he was in the residential home where he was cared for so well and with such love and kindness.

For the last few weeks he has had some non-specific infection and has been on two courses of antibiotics. He has been reluctant to eat or to be fed, but has been taking fluid. He has been asleep most of the time and had lost interest in anything. I spoke to him on the phone the day before yesterday and he said he did not feel well and just wanted to sleep.

I went out to a friend's this morning and asked my OH to ring me there if there were any calls from the home - I had a premonition that he would die today - strange isn't it?

As soon as I heard that he was worse, I rang the home to ask that they should not let him be taken into hospital - he had just died when I got through.

In many ways it is a huge relief, although niggling away at the back of my mind is the fact of his unnecessary fall in hospital and the subsequent anaesthetic that was the start of his real decline. It is no good wondering how things might have been if he had not had that fall - we cannot dwell on this and have to hang on to the fact that eventually we managed to organise some good care and he was in a homely and comfortable setting when he died.