My brother is doing a tribute to Dad at his funeral next week and it does have some excellent and touching moments in it, but unfortunately misrepresents Dad in a big way. Brother is obsessed (and I mean obsessed!) with cars and the topic is done to death in his tribute. Dad was not really interested in them and only serviced them himself to save money. The rest of us are keeping schtumm and going with the flow as we feel it is his way of dealing with things - but I guess a bit of me feels that this is the last chance to speak about Dad and tell everyone what he meant to us and it would be nice if his true character were represented.
I think it would cause a big rift if I said anything, so I will go with the flow. But it is another thing to mourn as far as I am concerned. Dad was a musician in his heart; frustrated by family finances so could not pursue it as he would have wished. I have however chosen the music and asked the celebrant to make sure he indicates why these choices have been made and what the music meant to Dad, so hopefully the beauty of the music will speak for itself.
Anyone else had these sorts of challenges over a funeral?
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