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Mishap Sat 17-Aug-13 17:04:28

My Dad's funeral and cremation was yesterday and although it was heart-wrenching (especially the music that evoked him so poignantly) it was, I think, a fitting tribute to him.

The two days were however extremely exhausting. Dreadful train journey down to Devon on Thursday on old, smelly, fume-ridden, rattly and noisy carriages. We both felt quite ill when we arrived at Torquay station where there was no buffet and the toilets were padlocked at 4.30pm!

Car journey back was slow and problematical - OH went into atrial fibrillation and was quite unwell. Thankfully we were in a service station and not on the motorway when it happened, and my DD and SIL were there. Drugs were in the case in the boot and he gradually settled down, but remained giddy and weak and was unable to take his PD drugs, so that problem reared its head. We are taking it easy today.

I am so glad it is all over. But then the scattering of the ashes in a few weeks. Another journey down - I will insist that OH stays at home this time.

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HildaW Sat 17-Aug-13 17:08:04

Mishap, sounds all so exhausting and so very sad for you. I do hope you and your OH can have a rest, have a bit of an emotional break and just take time for yourselves.

All the very best flowers

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celebgran Sat 17-Aug-13 17:10:33

So sorry mishap to hear about loss of your dad a d stress of funeral.

Poor oh sounds like was too much for him.

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Backagain Sat 17-Aug-13 17:15:35

Poor Mishap too. flowers

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mrshat Sat 17-Aug-13 17:21:03

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LizG Sat 17-Aug-13 17:21:35

Oh Mishap, poor you. I hope your OH is feeling better now. Sending best wishes to you, look after yourself flowers

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Ella46 Sat 17-Aug-13 17:25:35

Mishap flowers It was never going to be easy was it, you both need a rest now. Take a deep breath and try to let some of the tension go, you have been through a lot.

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nanapug Sat 17-Aug-13 18:19:12

Sending you love and flowers, and hoping you have the opportunity to rest, relax and recover. I think you are wise not letting your OH go again xx

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whenim64 Sat 17-Aug-13 18:22:05

Mishap you've managed it and I can imagine how difficult it was for you, being distressed about your dad and worrying about your OH. You can at least relax for a few days now. Take care flowers

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gracesmum Sat 17-Aug-13 18:44:50

flowers All I can add is that you at least have this behind you and you have done all that you could. DH's AF must have been the last straw but thank goodness you had the necessary drugs on you and were not coping on your own. What a dreadfully stressful day. Can you combine the ashes with a night or two somewhere nice so that you have a happier experience? (Even if you have to postpone the scattering?)
Time to rest now.

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Marelli Sat 17-Aug-13 19:16:15

Mishap, I'm just sending you some flowers, and wishing you a more peaceful time over the next wee while. xx

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