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kittylester Mon 16-Sept-13 07:17:54

And, if you do, can you recommend any or do they all end up as bad tempered battles for supremacy and the moral high ground? sad

Having been a member of gn since early on, I am really unhappy about the vitriol often unleashed on here. The odd spat is understandable but GN seems to have a large number of, mostly new posters, who delight in creating discord.

So, can anyone recommend any general forums like GN used to be.

Ariadne Wed 18-Sept-13 09:35:13

I belonged to a forum on a breast cancer website, and, at the time, it was brilliant. You could join whatever thread you liked, but there were threads on each stage, so if, for example, you were in the middle of chemo, you could go on there and ask daft but worrying questions, and talk to people who were going through it or had been through it. It was so comforting, and I "met" so many brave people.

Greatnan Wed 18-Sept-13 08:50:55

My own MIL didn't even try to hide her snooping and caustic comments. It was worth getting divorced just to get rid of her!

shysal Wed 18-Sept-13 08:33:00

A friend of mine used to booby-trap her oven with loose tins, knowing that her MIL would check for cleanliness.

thatbags Wed 18-Sept-13 08:21:36

Yes, baubles, DD told me about a hilarious thread on MN when someone told the story about a nosy MiLsnooping in private things while babysitting. The hilarity was caused by the suggestions of booby traps to ascertain the snooping once and for all and to stop it by clever strategems. It worked.

The plan used was to leave papers about house-selling and emigrating in a drawer the woman thought her MiL pried in and then pretend to know nothing about it (actually the husband didn't). It was brilliantly done.

Wish I could find the thread.

baubles Wed 18-Sept-13 08:16:51

The second I pressed 'post' I realised that my assertion that I don't belong to any other forum is a nonsense. I'm a member of Mumsnet but tend to think of it and GNet as branches of the same thing.

Some Mumsnet threads can descend into bickering fairly quickly, the AIBU topic is a hoot at times. grin. There is lots of kindness and support when needed though, just like here.

baubles Wed 18-Sept-13 08:13:11

In answer to your question kitty, I don't belong to any other forum.

Because I don't have a lot of free time to spend on here I tend not to get involved in any of the more serious topics, which can be quite fast moving.

I just haven't been able to make sense of this one at all!

j08 Wed 18-Sept-13 08:02:53

It's got loads better since Annieb joined in. smile

j08 Wed 18-Sept-13 07:58:21

I think it's one of the funniest threads. Everyone talking at cross purposes. grin

gracesmum Wed 18-Sept-13 07:51:19

I feel sad for Kittyl however whose original question expressed a level of frustration subsequently seen to be entirely justified.

absent Wed 18-Sept-13 01:51:21

Well if that's the case Aka, I'll just have to copy jing's example and use @boring. grin I think this is one of the most boring threads ever seen on Gransnet – and there have been some in the last nearly two and half years!

Aka Tue 17-Sept-13 22:44:23

All my words were considered and relevant! grin

Aka Tue 17-Sept-13 22:43:40

That was in reply to your 21:34:08 post

Aka Tue 17-Sept-13 22:42:44

Not a matter of judgement when someone is stating the obvious though pomposity is perhaps open to a subjective judgement. However Grace I like the way that you managed to make you point with a touch of humour smile

gracesmum Tue 17-Sept-13 22:34:52

Trust me to pick out the wrong/irrelevant words [duh] emoticon

Ana Tue 17-Sept-13 22:26:33

'pointing out' is the crucial bit of the sentence, surely gracesmum?

bluebell Tue 17-Sept-13 22:23:00

Grace grin

gracesmum Tue 17-Sept-13 21:34:08

"Pompous truisms" (not that anybody is being judgemental understand) and "politely" in the same sentence ....hmm

Aka Tue 17-Sept-13 20:50:03

Have to disagree Absent a yawn emoticon could really cause offence. I'm sure it's better simply to answer briefly as Anniebach did politely pointing out the pompous truisms?

Anniebach Tue 17-Sept-13 20:28:05

So true Elegran, we all have fears, be they rational or irrational, but I am sure you agree for some these fears can ruin w persons life, that must be hell

thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 20:27:42

Title of the thread, jings.

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 20:19:41

Was there a question? confused wink

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 20:18:40

And I haven't got a clue what you're talking about anyway. grin

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 20:17:32

You still here Absent?! I'm amazed.

Elegran Tue 17-Sept-13 20:11:04

We all fear something Anniebach, even the most robust of us, or perhaps we avoid something which others have no problem with - the sight of blood makes some people faint, even a few drops of someone else's. With some it is something logical, with others there seems no sense to it, but that does not make it less real. Just as well we are all different, or there would be no nurses or Alpine mountain rescue teams!

I was not making fun of anyone's fears, just saying that we could get into a position where mentioning anything at all risked causing distress to someone - or made self-appointed guardians accuse us of causing distress, while the "sufferer" was happy to just take evasive action, as you were.

Eloethan Tue 17-Sept-13 20:10:26

Good idea absent. Talk about a storm in a teacup!