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It's at times like this I miss my ex !!

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tiggypiro Tue 10-Dec-13 09:49:51

The on/off switch on my radio has been dodgy for a while but is now completely knackered. I have had the back off but I do know when I am beaten.
My ex could have easily fixed it but I shall have to go and buy a new radio.
I know having to buy a new radio is better than having him around but ...........!
Are there any situations when you wished he/she was around for a few minutes ?

Lona Tue 10-Dec-13 09:55:24

No! Nothing could make me feel like that about either of them! grin

Mishap Tue 10-Dec-13 09:59:35

Glad he had his uses!

Charleygirl Tue 10-Dec-13 10:22:35

No, I cannot think of anything.

tiggypiro Tue 10-Dec-13 10:52:32

It only thought it for a nano second and then only for him to mend the radio !!

Nelliemoser Tue 10-Dec-13 10:55:15

tiggypro grin

janerowena Tue 10-Dec-13 11:18:44

Dancing. sad Ex was a good dancer, current has to be blackmailed or tortured into it. As I can happily dance the night away I have felt a bit sad about it at times, although he has made the effort on occasion the last time was about 6 years ago. We have been to a fair few dinner dances lately and I always know that I will either have to dance with the ladies or borrow someone else's partner. I had great fun at one last year watching the poor woman whose husband I had borrowed trying to cajole mine into getting up, but I did feel guilty. I don't think they will invite us again.

Sook Tue 10-Dec-13 11:28:02

Having held my tongue whilst my OH took over one hour to put some lights on a very small outdoor Christmas tree, which would have taken me 15 mins at the most (but I'm not seemed capable) I envy all those with an EX.

Sook Tue 10-Dec-13 11:28:34

That should read deemed

sunseeker Tue 10-Dec-13 11:44:12

I am fortunate in having a couple of very capable and helpful brothers in law!

Galen Tue 10-Dec-13 12:00:00

I have to employ a handyman

Nelliemoser Tue 10-Dec-13 12:02:00

Similar Sook
I have been trying to work out how to a arrange to have an Xmas tree and a 15mnth old safely in the same room.

My dismantleable fruit cage came to mind. I spent Sunday A.M. trying to get a suitable configuration to make a barrier. I intend to fix some crepe paper around it and keep them separate! Well it should help a bit.

Then DH comes in and tells me how it should be done.

It has always been me who who has taken this cage up and down for the last three years and changed the shape and size to suit. I know best how it works, but DH had to spend another two hours reorganising it.

The most obvious solution would be to put DGS in the fruit cage with the netting on but his mum might object. wink

Or put DH in the cage with the netting on. Or the lidded compost heap.

henetha Tue 10-Dec-13 14:13:37

Yes, do miss him at times. He was a good cook and washer up, for one thing! And good at fixing things around the house.
But apart from that, a big fat NO. I don't miss his nastiness and bad temper and tendency to nag. His new woman is welcome to him.

lucyinthesky Tue 10-Dec-13 15:51:36

Same here Galen although I can manage to decorate the Xmas tree at least! My ex was pretty useless at DIY anyway, so not a reason to miss him specifically.

gratefulgran54 Tue 10-Dec-13 18:37:58

I have never missed my EX, but have 'needed' him on occasion.

Like when my Dad was terminally ill, and my Mum was suddenly taken seriously ill (dying 10 days later)...I needed him to be there for his children, who were 12, 14 and 16 at the time, and to show some sort of support to me and them at a terribly traumatic time!

And when our youngest son was on life support at 20 yrs old (heart failure due to undetected arrythmia), I needed him to care enough to at least phone the hospital to see if he was ok, or even, God forbid, turn up and sit at his bedside for a while, like his parents did. (DS thankfully survived and is about to become a Dad for the 2nd time)!

And when his Father had a heart attack, followed by a triple bypass and valve repair, which meant 7 weeks in hospital.....I needed him to occasionally offer to take his Mum down there in the afternoons, so I could do a full days work, or even to visit his Dad more than twice, and for more than half an hour!

And I need him to care that he has 4 (nearly 5) beautiful grandchildren, 3 of whom don't have any other living Grandad, and maybe, just maybe, send them a Birthday or Christmas card...but then he hasn't for his sons, so think that's pushing my luck!

And that, dear friends, is why I have been happily divorced/single since 1990!
Because, when all is said and done, I don't need a low-life like that, and neither do the rest of his family; parents, brother, children and grandchildren....we are doing just fine, and he is going to be a very sad, bitter, lonely old man.....couldn't happen to a more deserving person!

Sook Tue 10-Dec-13 20:36:05

Nellie tchgrin

seasider Tue 10-Dec-13 21:43:42

Better without him gratefulgran and sure your family appreciated your hard work and support. My ex was a builder and very talented and I often wonder what he could have done with the house I have now. I also miss his present wrapping skills but not his bad temper and inability to be faithful !