Husband/partner" ;s email.

Like so many others who have posted here, I was brought up never to look in someone else's handbag, never to open or read post addressed to others, and to respect privacy. We have separate email addresses, and I have a small lap top, whilst Mr I has the large (what was the family) computer. I wouldn't want to read his emails, I spend enough time reading my own. We have a joint bank account, and separate accounts. It's a family joke that I have a Great Escape account, where I put a small amount every month, and then take off for a bit of sun when I feel the need. Since retiring, we also have a couple of joint savings accounts, and separate ones. Not much money folks, just complicated savings plans. I can't imagine wanting to creep about reading Mr I's emails, opening his post etc. I have too many other things to get on with - dogs to walk etc

I don't read his e-mails on a regular basis but he will sometimes ask me to have a look to check something or see if one he is expecting has arrived. Post is nearly always opened by me as can't be bothered and if he calls me during the day he will always ask if there is anything interesting in the post. Like many others he will not go into my purse or handbag even if I ask him to and will bring the lot to me rather than do so. Not sure what he thinks will happen . We have joint and separate bank accounts but I sort out all the money and he asks me to check his account. Nice that he trusts me. I suppose after 38 years he should do.

No way would I do without my private e mail. We have separate bank accounts, although technically they are joint accounts we do not have any joint cards or passwords. In reality I feel a great deal happier this way. I don't think he would take money from my account if he could, but his spending does get erratic at times.

DH will never look in my bag (even when it would actually be useful!) and, until he became ill and didn't want to be bothered anymore, I never opened his post. I was riddled with guilt last week because I'd accidently opened a circular that was addressed to our son.

We don't read each other emails, open each other's mail or share bank accounts! And he would never go near the bag! It works for us, no complaints either side. Mind you, if he gave me any reason to be suspicious...

Oh no, would never read DH's mail, so boring. he is Victor Meldrew mark 2 and his mail is usually in reply to one of his rants

We have separate email addresses but all the mail comes in on both computers so we see each others mail. Quite honestly, I do not have time to read all DH's email and vice versa. If an email title shows that it is of common interest or where it is urgent I may look at it, but we both are involved in several local organisations that generate quite a lot of email so it is all we can do to cope with our own email without reading t'others

DH wouldn't know how to read anyones e-mail even his own . We don't read each others post, that to me is just good manners.

I think it's sweet of him that even if I ask him to fetch my keys/purse from my handbag he will bring the bag rather than open it and retrieve the particular item.

"contacts and".... not "contact sand" whatever that may be!

During DH's various stays in hospital I had to go into his emails for contact sand to make sure nothing needed doing and I discovered that he does not use email for chitchat like wot I do! It was all very boring!
As for bank accounts, we have a joint account which he mainly uses for bills to do with the house (and his Amazon habit) and my account which is for food shopping, presents for the DC and DGC etc and maybe the oddlittle indulgence for myself
I hope to goodness he does not look at my Facebook, GN or the like as he might not always like what he reads

We have a joint bank account and I also have one of my own. DH uses the joint one for his personal stuff and household bills but I could use it if I wanted. However I don't need to as I use my own. We also have separate email addresses and computers. We're happy with this arrangement so that's all that matters!

WE have joint bank account too , IMO that how it should be !

We've always had joint bank accounts too Icya and our DC's think it odd. Having said that, DH has a couple of accounts in his name but I have a third party mandate on them - even I'm confused now.

Anyone who goes in my handbag will face my wrath (dark frown). Husband, friend, sneak thief, whoever. Don't mess with my handbag. And we have separate emails because I'm the tetchy one (hee hee, I meant techy but the computer knows better) and I set them up.
On the other hand, we have always had joint bank accounts, something my DCs think is odd these days.

Actually I've been thinking about this and realised that although I have no compunction about looking at my husband's emails or opening his post (and he is quite happy with that) I can't think of an instance when he's ever opened mine. Not that I would mind, but it just hasn't happened that I can recall. On the other hand I often open my purse to find he's taken cash -again, I don't mind, but it has led to one or two embarrassing moments in shops when I just knew I had a tenner that's mysteriously disappeared. This week I knew I had a fiver and it had transformed itself (with a little help from my husband) into a tenner!

When we shared a computer DH and I used to check each other's emails but now we have one each, we don't. We both could if the urge took us but, frankly, his are boring - work or investment related.

We open each other's post too if we feel like it. We have no secrets - I think!

[walks off whistling in a nonchalant way to have a look at Dh's computer while he is talking to the aerial man!]

That is soo true , he would not go in my bag either !

My husband won't look in my bag either. He says his mother dinned it into him that a lady's handbag is private.

My DH hated computers so although he had a separate email account so customers could contact him I was the one who read them and passed on the details. I would never have opened a letter addressed to him unless he had told me he was expecting something and to open it and let him know what it said.

It always made me smile if he asked me for something and I would say it was in my handbag - he would fetch the bag and hand it to me, in the 43 years we were married I don't think he ever opened a letter addressed to me or looked in my bag!

Its not just about trust, its also about respect.

My husband brings me all the post to open - his and mine - because he knows I like doing it and he doesn't. He has an email address but hates doing that too so usually asks me to tidy it up. (He just now came in with the post on cue!) We are boringly transparent. However, I wouldn't do it unless I had permission.

Always had our own e-mail, don't really have any interest/reason to check each others mail... certainly wouldn't be doing it without first asking.

We have separate E.Mail address"s !
That is just the way it worked as he had his computer first , then he bought me a laptop.
I did not really want to have them the same .

We have the same email address - job done!

But if we did not, I would not dream of going into it without his permission.

My husband and I shared one email address for many years so we often read emails intended for the other, but now we work on two separate computers so I have no idea what emails he gets - and if I did want to know I would just ask him. Is she just nosy do you think or is there a lack of trust there perhaps? Again I usually can't be bothered to look at my husband's (boring) mail, but if I was curious about one of his letters there would be no problem if I did open and read it. Sometimes (though very rarely) I do that (usually if it's a letter from abroad) and then if the contents are interesting I call him at work and read the letter to him over the phone. What's mine is his and what's his is mine.