Palliative Care - One year on

Wonderful!

oh what a lovely little story...bless your mum my friend has dementia and the stories they come out with! well! you just couldn't write them could you

What a happy outcome, Merlot. I'm pleased for you that your mum is obviously enjoying her life there

Merlot [ grin] Did she ever have any connections with the wrens or the navy? I am wondering from where in her confusion that one came from.

A heartwarming post, merlot.

My mother-in-law , during her last 10 days or so, was convinced that 'God' was shouting at her through a tannoy to join an orderly queue on the parade ground, to which she would bellow "I'm not ready yet!"

My son in law is in the Navy, Nellie so that could have triggered something off.

She is also convinced that Ozzy Osbourne holds regular singalongs in the lounge. His favourite being, 'I've Never Seen A Straight Banana'

There could be more than a grain of truth in that

merlot what a lovely post.

merlot that's wonderful. It makes visiting so much easier if you can laugh together, even if it's about make believe.

merlot it's lovely that your mum is enjoying her life now, albeit in her own way. Sad though that you had to go through so much trauma to get to this point.

That's wonderful merlot. Your Mum seems very happy and you must be mightily relieved.

I had the 'end of life' conversation with Mum's GP about 6 weeks ago expecting it to be highly relevant. She survived, is off oxygen, will be 90 in a fortnight and is quite content in this [final] home where the staff are amazing. Mum is a long way along the dementia path now and doesn't recognise one of my brothers, confuses the other with her husband but knows me although she appeared not to like me for most of my life - don't have any idea what that means.

Great post Merlot - humour is so important to keep going. And Kitty- courage- I really admire your good care of your mum- despite the fact you didn't get on when she was younger, and didn't really feel loved. My sil was in exactly the same position- and she battled on. After mil's demise, it was of great solace to her that she had done 'her best' and kept going right to the end. My mil called my sil Mummy- and at first it was quite a shock- but she got used to it. All the best to both of you with your mums.

So glad that you have found the right place for Mum and that she is in charge there and has a tame DJ to water her plants! Happily demented is not a bad place to be.

Great news that your mum is happy that's all we carers can wish for. I love the wrens story.
My mum spent her last 8mths in a lovely CH.