At least he uses the handbrake - would that more drivers would do the same. Sitting behind some twerp at traffic lights, with all his high-intensity brake lights on is painful...
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(24 Posts)My DH Puts the handbrake on every time without depressing the little button thingy. I tense up. When I learnt to drive having had a few lessons with him the driving instructor was very angry with me for this. Just hadn't a clue .
He wouldn't know where to start, the test is computerised so he would not have a clue, He wouldn't beat my score, I got 50 out of 50. Also to make matters worse he has no sense of direction.
newist I'd call his bluff next time and just ask him to take one of the new theory tests as I'm sure like my OH he would not pass it as they have been driving for so long they haven't kept up with new ways on the road.
Thanks every one who have posted on this thread, I am so glad I am not the only one. I have made my car look quite "Girlie" I have Tinkerbell on top of the aerial, because I like faeries, a very pretty flower tax disc, I did put eyelashes on the head lights but they blew away. I have said I would take an advanced driving test, just to wave it at him, but I would have to travel a long way to do that. After we have had "Words" about this, he does see the error of his ways, for a while, then it all starts again, The trouble is I think, he has never been a passenger very often.
How I can relate to the op on this one but I seem to have solved the problem now by buying a car which mr.glamma thinks is too girly for a man to be seen in !! He still has not got over the shock of me passing my test first time after 6 mths at the age of 30 so have been driving with no bumps or problems for 30+ yrs even driving across Europe on some of the worst Roads and junctions I have ever seen so I must be doing something right.
I will not drive with DH in the car unless he is unconscious or bound and gagged and lying in the back seat. Our daughters will only take him under the same rules.
Some years ago the Minister's wife collected her (more than slightly the worse for wear) Rev DH from a social function. Having endured his running commentary on her driving for a few miles, she stopped the car in the middle of nowhere and sweetly invited him to take over the driving. He agreed, got out of the car to change seats and she drove off and left him. T'was the talk of the village for months 
How about taking the advanced driving test? My daughter found it very interesting and it MIGHT make your OH stop criticising.
Do wheelies down Committee Road that'll shake him, tell him I told you to. 
Blimey Newist, I have always said that the only place I would learn to drive is over there, no roundabouts to speak of. It's probably the only place I DONT back seat drive.
Me too! 
I'd like to know about Oban!
Don't have any problems with DH as he never learnt to drive!
I will confess to the occasional teeth sucking when a passenger with DD, although I never actually say anything. Well she has only been driving 10mths.
Never had this problem with the late Mr.Gally. I learnt to drive as soon as I was 17, as did he. He took part in rallies as a yoof and was a brilliant driver. He said I was the only driver, male or female, who he felt happy with. Some compliment! I can imagine it must be very disheartening to have a constant 'presence' sitting, metaphorically, on your shoulder 
It is a sign of how ill my DH has been that he now lets me drive him around and sometimes even complements me. I had previously spent over 30 years trying never to drive him anywhere because I couldn't stand the constant nagging. It wasn't just me either- when his lady friend lived with us (Don't ask!) he was just as awful about her driving.
Nice one Charleygirl
good for you charliegirl!!!!!!
I learned to drive in the late 80's when we were about to separate. I was told by OH that I should learn to drive in an automatic as I would not cope with gears, being too stupid. Also if I ever passed my test, I should only drive at 25 miles an hour on any road, including motorways.
I passed my test first time and learned to drive in a car with gears. I can keep up with the flow of traffic which in London at times is 5 miles an hour!
If anything I find its me who is the back seat driver, we have both driven professionally so are both very capable but I find it so hard to keep it buttoned. OH just takes it all in his stride and ignores me thankfully lol. He never comments on my driving.
Apparently I am always in the wrong gear!!!! I passed my test 41 years ago today. DH is so bad that if we agree that I will drive I say before we set off he can sit and not criticise or I will stop and he can walk! I am never fast enough either!
I agree too! I was a bit of a late learner (in my forties) and DH did give me some 'lessons'. However, despite 20 years of safe driving he still pulls me up for minor things and insists on shouting "Go!" when I'm waiting to pull out onto a roundabout etc.
He himself is oblivious of the fact that he is the Old Boy Racer from hell, so much so that DD won't let him drive her or the GCs at all these days...
I too can identify with this!
The biggest crime of all is if I lift a hand to wipe the inside of the windscreen - all hell is let loose! Apparently this is a definite No No!
I can sooooooooooo relate to this newist
But for me its much worse, every time either of my sons or husband get in the car they start--mind that, mind this!!!
I try to explain to them that in 30 odd years I have not had an accident even when they were NOT in the car, so why they feel the need to tell me HOW to drive I just do not understand.
I just laugh it off now but it did used to upset me.
So newist you are defnetly not alone with this one 
Men (walks off in a massive huffff) 
I didn't pass my driving test until I was 65, My DH was very helpful, I could not of done it without his help, sitting beside me for practice.
He has now become the back seat driver from Hell. When we get in the car he does a check list, can you see out the windscreen? Yes!! Can you see in the mirrors?, Yes!!. Have you cleaned your glasses? Yes!!. Then we set off. Watch out for the sheep, Yes!!. By now his body is stiff, his fists are clenched. We mainly have single track roads, which I suppose does not help him much. He has driven all his life, I have sat next to him in some quite dodgy situations, ( we never talk about Oban) I have been told by others I am a good driver, so why can he not relax with me. Does anyone else have this problem?
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