Are you 'bossy'

Yes,their may be many and various reasons as to why a woman is assertive,and/or bossy.I am like this due to my husband being violent in our young marriage.it was make or break.I gave an ultimatum,I will leave you and take the children,if you lay hands on me ever again.so I began to assert myself,where as I had been quite shy and nervous prior to that.I am the dominant one in the marriage now.we love each other,but he damaged me,something happened inside,and it has never been the same for me since.

I am not BOSSY at all, no way, but some how one way or another, things happen as I would like them to happen.

I don't need to be bossy. DH is so laid back he's horizontal. I never have to wait more than a few days for jobs to get done.

Yes, according to DH I am bossy but when I want his opinion, I give it to him

I was a certainly a bossy child and one of my granddaughters seems to have inherited this characteristic. None of the others - another girl and three boys - appears to have nascent leadership skills.

I'm bossy, but not as bad as my friend who still tries to organise everyone and is constantly disappointed by their failings. I try not to get drawn into being exasperated by modern life - too exhausting. I still like to give helpful advice to DH though - he calls it nagging. As if!

my DH is failry bossy and I often rebel - but is "bossy" the same as "controlling?
If so it might become a criminal offence in marriage .
Discussion about it on Radio4 news this am.

I am not bossy. I am assertive and can hold my own in predominantly male environments.

Thank you FlicketyB for using the word assertive which is how I see myself and if it wasn`t for me we wouldn`t go anywhere or have any friends - need I say more

I became more assertive but not 'bossy' when I had the DC.
DD1 was a little bit 'bossy' as a child (takes after DH) but that has stood her in good stead - she has to manage a lot of workers and they have (mostly) said that she is the 'best boss they have ever had'.

However, being 'bossy' would not make a good boss; DD1 is extremely good at delegating and organising, which is not the same as bossy imo.

I'd prefer someone else to make decisions now and again. I've had to assume a bossy/assertive persona or nothing would get done. However, having spent the best part of three days with my 4-year old GD I think I can hand over my mantle to her very soon.

Me too Rosequartz I was a mouse before I had the children and then I found my roar! But I don't think I'm bossy, just assertive. Nice word - assertive.
DD1 too is quite bossy - but her DH likes it that way and she too is a manager and a good boss.
DD2 is bossy - but in a quiet way and her DH doesn't realise, neither do the folk she works with. She just seems to usually get her own way.
DS isn't bossy - he says - just masterful!

I saw a very satisfactory answer to that question on Twitter (or somewhere!) recently: "I'm not bossy, I'm the boss."

I'm not bossy but I'm very competent and a good communicator (compared with some other people in my vicinity) so I get lumbered with getting things done. I don't always want to be thus lumbered so sometimes I devise plans to escape from the burden.

Same here Bags

Dd is VERY BOSSY. Suppose it comes from being a science teacher.

It couldn't possibly be from me!

Could it?

A'm sayin' nowt!

Coward!

I'm very bossy. Why wouldn't you be?

The word we use to describe DD is uncompromising. Actually it is the word she uses of herself, which is why she has chosen to live happily single. Whether this is bossiness, assertiveness or just being plain awkward I do not know. Again is it genetic?

DH has learned is still learning that trying to be 'bossy' with me gets him nowhere.

I am forceful when I feel I need to be. Assertive, proactive, not at all shy, have loads of ideas that I would love other people to at least try before they condemn them, but have a quiet voice. So I can't be accused of being strident, which is probably just as well!

My mother always put me in charge of my sisters, then I would be accused of bossiness as I relayed her wishes. It hurt my feelings, I most certainly didn't want to have to keep an eye on them at all, I wanted to read my books. Maybe bossiness is a minor form of a desire for power. I have no wish for that, just for equality and not to be ignored.