"The love of my life" - what does that actually mean?

Sunseeker, I think you have expressed it perfectly.

Grannyknot....clue is in your OP.....you are watching a 'movie'....if only life was that simple or decisive.....
As I get older and just a teeny bit wiser I realise that its what you put into a relationship that really matters. Yes your initial 'choosing' mechanism help...going for a decent person with a similar set of core values but if you are a loving, forgiving person who tries to live by the rules you set each other...then I think you will probably have as much chance as anyone who feels ( whether in life or in a work of fiction) that he/she was the love of their life.

I was lucky enough to meet and marry the love of my life while in my teens. After DH died people have said I should move on and find someone else, but for me there can be no-one else. There is no-one who can replace DH in my heart or in my home. To me he was a very special person who made me feel loved and cherished. I find I am just not interested in any man being more than a friend. I'm not expressing myself very well but for me he always was and always will be the only one.