Aren't gransnetters nice!

Nice always reminds me of Jazz Club from the Fast Show.

It takes me all my time to type what I want to say without bothering about all the smileys and shouting, etc.

OK Got the protocol now, thanks for explaining it so NICELY everyone who replied [ grin]

What I have a problem understanding is the idea that somehow we should all be nice ( or whatever word you want) on GN. I think it depends on the thread first and foremost . There are some threads like Soops kitchen and Pete's bar - whatever their latest names are , ones about sad personal situations, hobbies and other light hearted ones where of course people should not be confrontational ( not sure that's the only alternative to nice ) But other threads involve quite rightly robust debate and engender strong feelings - there is a long and dishonourable tradition on the part of some GNers to think arguments, disagreements and confrontation should always be avoided ( although they tend to be selective as to who they criticise). They seem to hate the expression of strong feelings and opinions and see it through a confrontational prism. I think it's great the help and support that people can receive on GN but let's have a range of behaviour on propitiate threads - much more interesting. That's one reason I love MN

Spot on,GrannyTwice.

'They' ?

No one dislikes the cut and thrust but 'they' object to the insults!

Now that IS spot on Kitty

If a poster makes a point and someone disagrees with it then it is right and proper for them to put their own point across if they so wish - reasoned debate!

However if they (perhaps deliberately) misunderstand your point or project their own problems on to it and then start asking you what your problem is then that is not reasoned debate or a healthy exchange of ideas.
In fact it is not nice.

One GNer's insult is another's pithy, witty riposte!

Not sure that's true GrannyTwice, name calling is never 'nice'!

But we weren't just discussing name calling were we?

I don't think remarks like 'what is it with you' and 'do you have a problem with...' is pithy or witty.
(No-one on this thread I hasten to add).
But never mind, developing a thick skin since joining GN.

And I used to be so naice.

nice is a word I would not use

I agree, G2. Robust argument/discussion/disagreement is not at all the same as name-calling. And vice-versa.

I agree with silverfish, nice is too bland.

Well, you would, wouldn't you? There is nothing like adding your own second opinion - it is bound to back you up (unless you change your mind, of course) Or unless ethelbags1 was fibbing when she said that she had changed her name from silverfish.

This is all getting rather incestuous!

I think I need a lie down

My God! Can absolutely anything on this forum be turned into the makings of a third world war?

Third World War! Bit extreme isn't it jingle ? This is what is called a discussion and all the more interesting if people do get passionate about a particular thread. I think GrannyTwice has some good points.

I am happy with robust debate but I think we all know that sometimes some people are just plain nasty. What I particularly dislike is when someone attributes an opinion to another based on no evidence and also when they say you said something you didn't. Now of course that could be an accident but when it is pointed out and they don't apologise that is just plain nasty.

I have to wonder just how unhappy and sad someone must be to make trouble just for the sake of it.

[comfused] I'm getting very confused. Who is who? Is Ethelbags1 silverfish or someone else.
My poor elderly (probably demented) brain can't keep up!
Can someone please explain in words of one or less syllables ?
Please!

[comfused]

Try again