Thank you all for your kind thoughts and messages. We talk about him a lot, there are pictures of him in the house and my DGD and I laugh about all the silly little things he did. We tell her stories about him and this Xmas she was bought a star to name for him. What made everything so very, very much worse - if that's possible - is that they were more or less there when it happened. They were in for afternoon visiting and had just gone to the shop for drinks etc and when they got back to the ward all hell was breaking loose. And that was it.