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Such a shame

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ninathenana Wed 16-Sep-15 14:21:09

My friends brother, has recently been diagnosed with autism at the age of 59 this happened after he got into major financial difficulties after their mother (who he lived with ) died. My friend helped sort him out and he was managing ok.
Sadly he fell for the scam where they call posing as police and tell you to transfer your money into a certain account. They told him not to inform family or friends, so he didn't.
They cleaned him out ! My friend has had to organise equity release on their family home and he is currently living on an overdraft.
My friend is organising POA but it's a case bolting the stable door.
Scum bags angry

sunseeker Wed 16-Sep-15 14:25:00

That is awful, these people have no conscience. Are the police investigating? There are so many scams around these days that we all have to be so careful but someone with autism must have been an easy target.

I don't normally wish ill on people but as my late DH used to say "May they die roaring"!

ninathenana Wed 16-Sep-15 14:26:37

Yes the police are investigating.

MiniMouse Wed 16-Sep-15 14:28:02

How awful angry and also sad There are no words to adequately describe these scammers really.

At least the PoA will help him with future finances.

absentgrandma Wed 16-Sep-15 14:42:28

They really are scumbags...the lowest of the low. I saw a programme about this the other day, and the scams are getting more and more sophisticated.

I've talked about it to the OH as he is in his late 80s and very hard of hearing so I worry that if I die before him, he might be a victim, as he is a little bit gullible. My main worry is that even if you tell them you are going to call your bank to verify what they have told you they can do some techie thing to divert the number you have dialled back to them, who will of course pretend to be your bank. I have already decided, should it happen to us I would call our bank on my mobile rather than via the landline, but how many older people (by which I mean the 80-90 year olds) have a) the gizmos such as mobiles and iPhones, or b) the ability to think that quickly.

ninathenana Wed 16-Sep-15 14:46:37

That is the advice given by the police. To use a different line to call your bank.

PRINTMISS Wed 16-Sep-15 15:01:15

Like you absent I worry about the OH, he just trusts everyone, and doesn't seem to think before giving out information. Fortunately he can't see to read the bank/credit card details, and certainly doesn't remember them, but the other day I heard him confirm our address to someone over the phone and warned him of this, because of course we never know who is contacting us and why, do we?

Bellasnana Wed 16-Sep-15 15:32:33

I honestly don't know how these people sleep at night knowing the devastation they are causing to innocent and vulnerable people. They clearly have no conscience at all sad

rosesarered Wed 16-Sep-15 22:16:33

tragic case nina.

Nelliemoser Thu 17-Sep-15 07:34:50

That is not an unusual story. A vulnerable person who is kept going by parents but who cannot manage once said parent dies. A lot of people with autism or other moderate learning difficults encounter difficulties once they on their own. With a parent behind them to keep them functioning they seem to manage.
However many ssds dont now offer any services to this group unless learning disabilities are severe. Often the parents have not considered what help their relative might need once on their own. Very sad but a lot of people who don't have learning diffs have fallen for that scam.

ninathenana Thu 17-Sep-15 08:51:51

Your right Nellie it's sadly not unusual and it's not just the vulnerable. More a case of the gullible.
I just felt the need to vent, sorry.

ninathenana Thu 17-Sep-15 08:57:14

Also, as I mentioned in the op he has only been diagnosed this year. When his mum was alive (dad died 40yrs ago) they thought he just had an 'odd personality'

rubysong Thu 17-Sep-15 19:07:11

Don't banks have any record of where money is transferred to? I would have thought they would know the bank and account number it had been transferred to.

ninathenana Fri 18-Sep-15 00:20:36

Presumably they have ways round this rubysong or the police would have put a stop to them all by now.

durhamjen Fri 18-Sep-15 00:31:04

There was an article about scammers and cyber crime in the i today. I was explaining about it to my grandson, and he asked me if that was what happened when I told people I was not interested on the phone and put it down. I said yes!
Apparently criminals are quite happy to talk to the police about cyber crime and said they were rubbing their hands in glee at the government's new pensions scheme.