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Adding deceased relatives to photos

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Anniebach Wed 04-Nov-15 09:41:07

How I would love to have photographs of my two babies who died at birth , I can understand why mothers of babies born sleeping want to share a photograph of their much loved child

Adding deceased to a photograph ? no way

Luckygirl Wed 04-Nov-15 09:39:35

I am sure that having photos of a stillborn child is healthy and helpful. Adding them to another photo seems weird though to me.

Nelliemoser Wed 04-Nov-15 09:37:24

There is a charity who do this.

The charity, Remember My Baby (RMB).
An interesting article below.

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/11886044/Stillborn-babies-Photographing-them-helps-parents-cope-with-grief.html

Nelliemoser Wed 04-Nov-15 09:25:51

I don't really see it as macabre. I have heard that some midwives etc dealing with neonatal deaths take photos of the babies and keep them.

They have found that a number of parents years later, whatever they thought at the time, desperately wish they had one.

There was a time when still born babies were whipped away by staff so as not to upset the parents and parents never knew what their child looked like.
I know a gran who got one from the hospital. Adding photos to pictures is another matter.

Bellanonna Wed 04-Nov-15 09:23:59

If they do it (speaking of the babies) they must find it helps them. I am just fortunate that I've never been in that situation. I wouldn't want to add deceased relatives to current photos. That doesn't make sense to me.

ninathenana Wed 04-Nov-15 09:11:58

I find all of the above creepy.
Someone I know sadly lost three individual premature babies at only days or weeks old due to her medical condition. Her lounge wall was adorned with pictures of each poor little mite all wired up in their incubators.
hmm hmm

Grannyknot Wed 04-Nov-15 07:44:22

There is a new trend now too for taking family photographs that include babies "born sleeping" (stillborn). Several have been posted on the mum's Facebook site that I'm on, and I struggle with that too. The photos are often professionally styled by photographers who specialise in photographing new born babies.

JamJar1 Wed 04-Nov-15 06:28:19

No, I would not add my long gone relatives to current pictures. I have a family group of pictures on a wall and by a picture of my GS and GD I just happened to put a picture of my grandfather and his sister, taken at the same age. The differences, grandfather and sister posed stiffly at the photographers in their Sunday best and the informal pic of my grandchildren about to burst into laughter are striking. All the years in between the two picture makes them extra special, to me, in some way.

LullyDully Wed 04-Nov-15 03:13:40

On first thought I am not keen.

Katek Tue 03-Nov-15 23:24:03

To avoid confusion pics are of them when they're alive.

Katek Tue 03-Nov-15 23:22:11

I've just been reading a FB thread about adding deceased relatives....primarily children/infants....to current family pictures. People have added fathers/mothers to wedding pics, children to pics of their living siblings, and tiny babies who died at days old into photos of their newborn siblings so they look like twins.

I find it very odd, not to say macabre. Reminds me of those dreadful Victorian photos where the deceased were propped up on frames and photographed in a last family pic. I would find a picture like that emphasised the fact that my relative was no longer alive - it wouldn't be real.