Nice things done by DILs

What a lovely thread!
We are so very lucky in our DDiL and DS2's DGF. They both fit into our family very easily and everyone gets on well. We are also lucky in their parents who are all lovely people and think the world of our sons. I do feel for others for whom this is not the case.

On Gransnet, understandably we hear so much about the problems Gransnetters have with DiL, but I do think, now and again, we should say a word in praise of all the DiL (& MiL) who never get a mention because they have never caused any problems and, to the contrary, are a wonderful addition to our families when they join them.

I would like to say a good word for both DiL and MiL. I had a lovely MiL. DH was an only child, so she could have been a possessive difficulty, but she wasn't. At times I found her easier to confide in than my own mother, kind, supportive and unjudgmental.

As far as DDiL is concerned, I couldn't have better. It still amazes me that someone as nice as her could possible want to be married to DS who, at times, can try the patience of a saint. She is a marvellous and loving mother, far more quiet and patient with the children than I ever was. We share a similar taste in clothes and interests and, when we can, have lovely girly days out, usually including DD.

I love my DIL, she is the person I hoped DS would meet and marry. She is a lovely person, very caring.

kittylester how awful for you. My DS1 had a stroke a few years ago (thankfully very small and no lasting effects). He apparently has a small hole in his heart, something you wouldn't expect in a 6ft ex rugby player. My DIL saw him through it and was a tower of strength, so sorry yours wasn't. It was a really awful time, hope your DS is now doing well. It isn't something you expect to happen.

Our sils and dil are all lovely too especially now we've replaced the Idiot! The one I regret losing is the one who brought DS1 home after his stroke and then b****red off. We all loved her to pieces and I am still shocked at how wrong we were.

My DIL is lovely- I couldn't have chosen a better one myself! We have so much in common.

My son and daughter in law are such good friends that they're an absolute joy to spend time with. I've known my daughter in law since she was seven years old and I simply love her - she's an utter delight. Her parents live just a few doors away and they are equally lovely people.

My sons in law don't live locally, but I get on great with both of them when I do see them.

My own mother in law is a very close friend and confidant whom I love unreservedly.

I love my dl..she brought me two new grand sons when she came to the family, now she has added another, my youngest grand daughter, making me a granny of 5, how wonderful is that. She has even taken up my hobby, knitting, and is already better at it than me...she is a blessing to out family.

This is making me feel a bit weepy-in a happy way. Thanks for all the comments. It's good to know there are good things in people's lives

I too am very lucky and have 2 lovely DILs who are great mothers and supports for our sons. There was a large gap of 17 years between their marriages but we were involved in planning both. My eldest son's wife has been estranged from her own mother for many years so I do try to fill that space when possible - sadly they live 2 hours away so we don't get the chance to do the girly shopping trips etc I would have loved and my other one is now on the other side of the world so our relationship is obviously not as close. My own MIL was a great lady and we got on very well - much missed since she passed away 5 years ago.

I only have a SiL too. He has been very helpful, painting fences and helping DH with work outside the house. He is very supportive of my DD and we all love him to bits.

I have a really lovely DIL who has always treated me wonderfully well from the very beginning. I was included with her own mother and grandmother in the shopping day for the wedding. We spent the day choosing bridal and bridesmaids' dresses and all the accessories, had a special lunch in the middle of it all and so it has continued ever since. She has given us three super DGSs who are all a pleasure to have around. Our DS counts himself to be very blessed as do we all!
The only thing I struggle with is that she never considers herself at all and puts everyone else first before herself. This makes it difficult to know what she would really like or even if we have really pleased her as she is always so happy and pleased with anything we do or give her. She is a real joy and I am so glad to be her MIL.
I am certainly not smug but am very grateful!

I too am lucky to have 2 wonderful DILs. Both loving and caring to my DGC. One has had really bad couple of years struggling with one DGC who has had problems and has fought so hard for her child. I think both mine are fantastic.

I am so lucky - I have two lovely, thoughtful DILs. I don't think we could have better if DH and I had chosen them ourselves. I do a lot for them, especially the one with children, but they never take anything for granted and it's definitely a two-way thing, with them, not our sons, being the ones to arrange little treats for our birthdays etc. or sometimes for no special reason at all.

I hope I don't sound smug. I certainly don't intend to, as things felt very different when DS1 was with his first wife. I can well imagine that if that relationship had continued, I could now be a regular poster on the 'cut out of their lives' threads. I often read those posts thinking 'there but for the grace of God ...'.

My DDIL is expecting dgc number 2 and tonight and said she's planning a girly day for the two of us when they are down after Christmas.

We're going to have a massage and lunch at a posh hotel ? as a thank you!

I'm very lucky, we've got on well since the very first time we met; I am also very aware of never imposing anything upon them.

My DiL's both offer to help in the kitchen when they are here, and one always compliments me on the food and says she loves coming for dinner. The other is a far better housewife than I am and she does loads of baking and washing etc.

I've been recuperating and DD2 has been amazingly helpful and also supportive of her father who is bearing the brunt of me being out of action. But she couldn't do all this without SIL doubling his school runs and bath/bedtime input. He also sent me a massive tome to keep my brain going while I was inactive. So very thoughtful.

I have a wonderful dil, she has brought so much to the family. I love her to bits xx

As a DIL myself , I am amazed at the way some treat their MILs. How sad that grown up people can be so nasty and /or thoughtless and I am aware that sometime it is the MIL at fault.

My MIL is a perfectly reasonable lady although I can't say she is someone I would make a friend of nor do I feel any great love for her. However she is DHs Mum and our children's grandmother and as such she is included into our lives and welcomed into our homes.

My dil to be (one day) sends me pictures and video's of their son as he grows its keeps me in touch with the little ones progress as our son is useless at contact. They live abroad and I only see them once or twice a year if I'm lucky, I am very grateful to her she is such a nice girl and I will be very happy when/if they marry.

So pleased to hear about happy relationships, maybe I should have included SILs in my post. It is lovely to know our children have such good people in their lives.

Nice to hear some positive views of DiLs! Our SiL is cooking our Christmas dinner too and he's a terrific chef.

No DILs but 2 SILs who I would be happy to call my sons.

Like KatyK, I just have a son-in-law and he is making my Christmas dinner. Enough said!

I only had a SiL he did used to do work on my car but he was paid. He and DD are nit together now.