Is it fair, on this website...

Did jingl refer to the bereavement forum?

She also didn't mention any personal tragedies.....I did so I've probably made things worse, for which I apologise.

Not going to comment any more.

So if it Christmas, no one is allowed to post on the Bereavement forum?
So if it is Easter, ditto?
Mothers Day ditto?
etc

Exactly, obi, and if we include everyone's celebratory days there soon won't be very many left on which someone grieving can mention that fact. Piece of nonsense.

Never be accused of over-reacting whatever you do !!! No one said anything about the bereavement Forum in the start of this thread . For goodness sake give it a rest !!

aggie I did!

Ok well I'll add to the general misery , OH has been sleeping all day , only wakened to have lunch , I will be up all night with him , but ................ hey ho , such is life ............. I will paste on a smile if the GC and their Dad roll in with overpriced flowers and sickly chocolates , then I will put a pillow over my face and have a good scream . Is there anyone who wants to be happy ? I did , but I give in and am off for a ood sulk . The bedclothes are blowing on the line and the sun is shining ........... Oops , sorry ............. It is b....y Freezing out there and I have to go and wrestle the washing off the line now

Flip me! What a palaver!

obieone, or whoever it was. I would love to keep everything sunny in my own little word. Can't always manage it though. Nice idea though.

No. I don't see the point in mass wringing of hands whenever a special day comes around. Just don't.

Thanks aggie (Oh brave one)

And thanks merlot.

Off to put some daffs on my mm's grave, after which I will continue with the sugarfest I am currently indulging in with DD2.

Have a nice rest of the weekend everyone. [cake]

cup

aggie

Thank you for the many kind comments here. However, l have been surprised and dismayed at the way this thread has unfolded. Merlotgran, you are right, l made the assumption that Jings was referring to my OP on the bereavement forum. I am sorry Jings if that was not the case. l have not known of your personal history. I can also see that if you are making an effort to be positive yourself, you can find it wearing when other people are down. More than anything l think this thread shows that we bring a wide variety of needs, wants and concerns to Gransnet. None of them are wrong. I asked for a bereavement forum to be set up when l first joined because l felt there could be a need for it and l think that is borne out. However, no-one has to read ANY posts on ANY forum . I am just sorry this has been a bone of contention today.

Actually, aggie, rightly or wrongly someone did say something about the bereavement forum at the start (well, the second post) of this thread. If my reaction to the OP (that's the Opening Post) is an over-reaction, then so be it. As jings said herself "it's what I think": life isn't fair; deal with it is at the basis of my life philosophy.

I'm generally a cheerful upbeat bugger, by the way, as well as forthright. I've had a lovely day today completely oblivious of the fact that it's Mother's Day until the OP of this thread reminded me.

And now I'm going to read a page or two about Sartre and de Beauvois on phenomenology.

Can't manage more than a page or two at once.

Crap philosophy. IMO.

Especially when you say it to other people.

... and you have a good weekend too, J.

Oh! Isn't it nice to have the knives out again bags. Just like the old days. Much more like it. [rubs hands in happy anticipation of future interesting threads]

It isn't Mothers day anyway , tomorrow is Mothering Sunday , when we should all bake Simnel cakes and take them to our mothers , wearing our best apron and mob cap ................ sigh I am mostly cheerful , but today I have let the B.....s wear me down , just sidcovered a note behind the door , someone tried to deliver a parcel grrrrrrrrr , I was hanging out the aforementioned washing in the freezing wind , and now have to go out to the shop for the parcel ......... and get the washing in if someone will sit here for 5 incase he wakens

Thanks fffin.

BTW, jings, I think some of your recent posts on this thread are disingenuous. As IF you didn't expect to provoke reactions by that OP

Aye, right.

All said perfectly cheerfully too

It's fine if you think it's crap philosophy. Doesn't affect me one jot.

Happy whatevers day to all!

Haha, aggie . Right you are! Shows how much attention I pay to what day it is. Oops.

So what was the OP about then?

Tch - timing out as ever - my post crossed with yours Jings.

The games people play ... there I was feeling sorry that you were getting some flack ...

Just wondering what darling daughter's reaction would be to demands for visits and home baked simmel cakes?
Don't want a visit anyway with this cough, cold and chest infection. The dgds would scoff the cake before it arrived!
Had a nice card and that's all I want.
It shows that she really understands her mother.
It states that at the end of a day ,all mother wanted was love, patience and A LARGE GLASS OF WINE!

It was on the bereavement thread - if you do not want to read anything sad (even though that is part of real life, just as happiness is) then don't open that thread. But certainly do not criticise someone for posting something sad on a thread that is clearly likely to contain some sad posts.

I admire your gracious response Imperfect - a medal is on its way to you!

And jings - I think you know how to avoid a palaver! - but how very bored you would be!