as she has been put back on end of life care and was unresponsive. Then my sister in law, whom mum dislikes preferring db's ex fiance from 30 years ago, said 'Hello, Babs' where upon Mum said 'hello dear!' and opened her eyes.
So the rollercoaster ride continues! Take care of yourself Kitty. 
Oh dear - it is so up and down. Stay strong.
Your poor mother seems to be the proverbial creaking gate. So difficult for all of you. Thinking of you
Oh Kitty It's all become so surreal
A very, very difficult time for you
kitty, I would be too.
kitty I don't know what to say.
kitty
Thanks everyone. I'm fine but hate being in limbo!! 
kitty I am speechless, but truly feel it can't be long, can it? Perhaps "Hello, dear" is a standard response and one she hears from carers and nurses? But for you to be on this knife edge for all these months must be close to unbearable.
I hope the family can give you the respite and support (and regular infusions of 
) that you need
This is exactly what I went through with my mother. Some days I didn't know whether I dared go home as she seemed to be so near the end and then the next day she'd be singing along to Frank Sinatra.
It's so emotionally draining. Hang on in there, kitty
kitty it is the limbo that's the worst part in my opinion. I used to jump every time the phone rang at this stage.
Sorry if I'm being insensitive but it was relief when the call did come.
Thinking of you and your family. Feel free to PM me if you need to
Thank you all. It's good to know other people feel the same.
As I'm a bit of control freak, I need to know whether I can do my shift in the library tomorrow, we have one of my brothers and Sil coming for supper, etc.
I mean, should I make the pudding or not? 
Not insensitive, nina, at all. I feel exactly like that.
And, you are on a knife edge too Alea, thoughyours can only last so long!
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