A friend of mine, a single lady in her 50s, works as a bank carer at local hospital so poorly paid but manages well enough as she rents a single room in a house for £80 a week inc.
Her only sister emigrated to Oz years ago and then Mum decided to go too. No one has any money.
Mum now has advanced dementia. There is no help out there; a home would cost $50 (£30) a day which they simply don't have so sister has Mum at home. She has a partner who has 3 children and they have a toddler. Sister is at her wit's end and wants my friend to go out to look after their Mum. She can only go for 3 months at most.
She already sends £200 a month out to Oz which helps with expenses.
Friend (who is a simple soul, somewhere on Asperger's spectrum) doesn't know what to do.
I have no idea what to say to her. Of course she wants to see her Mum but she will run up debts which she can't afford to repay-she can't get a bank loan as she doesn't have permanent employment. She was there at the beginning of the year so cannot afford to keep returning. We've lent her money in the past so she didn't pay bank charges which has always repaid.
She says she'll sleep on it. She comes to visit us tomorrow and uses our phone to ring Oz as we have a subscription which means cheap calls so no doubt we'll chew the fat then.
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