Just need to rant about the Idiot!

Teetime your mum telling you it was all your fault is so sad. If you went through the hell my D is suffering I hope you had someone supporting you.

Two of my sisters in law have done that. Who can you rely on if not your parents? Oh, I've just remembered my mother!

Oh Blimey kitty does it never end you would think he would get sick of the aggro but some people enjoy confrontation don't they. Your DD has a wonderful Mum I'm sure that's' a great comfort. My Mum used to tell me it was all my fault that Ex did the things he did!!

merlot this is a public forum or you would see what we really call him. I didn't know I knew such language!!

nina that's the sort of daft trick the Idiot would pull.

I've posted before that karma is taking too bloody long and it ought to stop messing and sort him out!

Oh dear, why is it when you think things have settled they raise their ugly heads again.
D's ex refused to let her collect her boys on Friday because she was stuck in the traffic caused by the collapsed bridge on M20 and missed pick up time. She has fought so hard to get regular access and asked to change next weeks arrangements NO you will have them as agreed.
He's another that has demanded money for school shoes and school lunches on top of child maintenance.
Sympathy to all those with ar***ole ex SiL

Rant away kitty, hope letting off steam has helped. Incredibly frustrating and so unfair.

At least you're polite enough to call him an idiot kitty

DH refers to DD's ex as A***hole Features!

Keep focusing on the fact that your DD is much happier now.

The one thing I can't have a go about with my estranged SiL is money. It is there in D's bank on the designated day. However I have just recently found out how much he sends her and it is not generous compared to his salary and lifestyle. However I blame my D for not fighting for more.
He and his GF are living an idyllic life 3000miles away. The GC are there now having a holiday with him. It is luxury all the way. His GF does not work and travels with him on business trips.
We have very little need of leisure or anything really and are able to subsidise them so that the C don't go without but it doesn't sit well when we hear snippets of their life from the GC. However karma, though a long time coming, is always at the back of my mind. Good wishes to all your D's and GC and may they store it all up.

Feeling helpless is horrid. Is there nothing you can do to shame him?

It's the impotence really! I'd really love to cause him a great deal of pain but we can do nothing at all about the stupid Idiot!

I try not to think about all of it too, Lona, but sometimes, something, really gets to me. This time it was seeing a photo of a beautiful blue swimming pool.

dd is perfectly happy now but could do without the ongoing aggro.

I feel for you and your DD Kitty. I'm sure there ARE deadbeat mums but mostly we hear about the deadbeat Dads ...and I use the word Dad lightly who just don't step up to the plate !!!

How sad for you , your daughter and grandchild but how infuriating !!!

My sympathy kitty, my poor dd could write a book! So far, there have been NO consequences for our ex idiot! He's just come back from Spain too.
I try not to think about it but my dd is still paying his bills from years ago!