I often say Hubby, in fact I only use DH here because that seems to be the norm, I don't actually like DH Much. About these stupid questions , yes they are really dumb, and insensitive too mostly.
Apart from things on the news I always think it is stupid if I say for example that I am going on Holiday, and I get " Oh are you going anywhere nice". I feel like saying " No of course not I thought I would look for the worst place I could find, I hear Aleppo has some good deals at the moment"" Why not just ask me where I am going for goodness sakes!!