My Turn?

By the by, I think GN has often had a lovely tone to it of late. I don't think ANYONE here has set out to maul anyone else ... crossed wires sometimes and some passionate debates, but a lot of sparkling wit too.

Haha! Yes, I have similar things happen just like your friend. I find most people will bend over backwards to help me, even if I don't need it. As I appreciate their kindness I often end up doing something I didn't want to, just to make them feel good.
I once asked an elderly man if he could get me something from a top shelf. He totally took charge, said he was going to help me do my shop. I didn't have the heart to tell him my husband was in the next aisle, so I got him to help with a handful of things up high. I even went to the checkout and paid so he thought he had done his good deed fro the day. My husband thought I was nuts.

I've wondered this myself, grandMattie - my husband does nearly all the household mainenance (he doesn't regard it as 'a chore') and says he enjoys doing it - I'm disabled and can't do much other than general planning, deciding what to eat, and cooking, with some help from him. I feel exteremely lucky that we still get on well after 41 years of marriage, and have fun together too. But I change the loo rolls much, much more often than he does. Inhave concluded that it's down to anatomy -I use loo paper every time I 'go', and whatever I'm producing, but he only uses it when he sits down, with sometimes a single sheet to catch a drip. Elementary, I guess, but it took me years to reach this erudite conclusion ...

Loopylou ... did you mean 'skivvying'? Skiving is quite a nice thought ...

Ah, but writing those letters is such a catharsis, isn't it loopylou?
I have written some extremely erudite and occasionally obscene letters to the PM in my time, but have never been brave enough to send them!

I do think that it is thought that women are there to do the skiving. Ie changing nappies cleaning,preparing food and clearing up. I revolt sometimes. And read the Times and compose letters to the PM. Not that I ever sent any........

As with giving birth, breastfeeding, and remembering family birthdays, men are just not physiologically designed to change toilet rolls, so I think we will have to let them off. They are best left to get on with things they excel at, like .........
Answers on a postcard, please

The phrase "oo -er missus" was I thought a well-enough known one for it to be clear where the "missus" belongs.
But hey.
However, what part of giving a link to what was a genuine and worthwhile community campaign -now over, it seems- constituted sarcasm?
As to "if you can't take the heat" etc- that sounds seriously threatening somewhat unfriendly.
Who are you to issue an ultimatum like this?

Conversation at a funeral we attended last week when DH introduced me to some old acquaintances.

H to me: 'So how long have you 2 been married then?"

Me to H: "Three years ago last May - I've just about trained him in now. How about you?

H: " Mmm, 60 years. I think I'm just about getting the hang of it now."

(He also told me he put up with 'Er' because she was a good cook and a good cleaner. I thought he had the look of a man who has never changed a loo-roll )

The latest one took three weeks of training/forcing him to put the butter in the butter dish.
To stop getting a new packet out and using it out of the wrapper.
I continuously put the opened packet back in the fridge.

There's cries of "this butter has gone hard again".
Yes husband, and it will do until it's in the butter dish.

I hide the toilet rolls.
Then like one of the major supermarkets say "when it's gone it's gone".
He soon asks where some is, and replaces it.
As for the empty cardboard middle being left on the bathroom shelf, I move it. Not to the bin but into his toolbox.
Strangely once he finds it in there he can manage to put it in the bin.
Most things with men are a bit like the controlled crying for getting babies to sleep through.
You have to grit your teeth and think what end result you are after.

l was gobsmacked this weekend, my grandson (14) stayed over & replaced the toilet roll & it was the right way as well.
:-)

Oh dear MawBroon give us a break, no need for sarcasm, your problem seems to be assumptions, what makes you think I am a "missus". No, I would not like to read your link my interests are much wider. This began as a light hearted thread and you have helped develop it into a forum mauling aka keyboard warrior. "If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen".

All heart your OH!

Oh dear, now listen, I've told you before, if its too heavy make 2 trips, said OH.

My sister has a lovely little plaque in her kitchen 'No-one notices what I do until I don't do it' - very true in her house.

Oh dear nellGwin, would you like to elaborate on that, perhaps tell me what my "Big Problem" is?

Oo-er missus tigger well at the risk of further flak for caring seeming sanctimonious , may I commend this scheme to any who are interested in a wider issue.
www.indiegogo.com/projects/who-gives-a-crap-toilet-paper-that-builds-toilets

I can see both sides. Due to my DH's PD, I am now doing more or less everything. I remind myself, that if I was single, I'd be doing it all anyway- though not the point here, I know. However, though life is very difficult, eg sometimes being up and down all night, it still has humorous moments, like being 'frisked' in bed at 400am because DH is looking for the hidden camera which he insists is somewhere. Mainly very sad, but with comedic moments.

Don't think it's a case of life not being fair, that one has been done to death. I empathise with grandmattie, I too seem to be always the one who empties the dishwasher, puts the bins out, cleans up the crap etc.etc. And yes MawBoon your post did come across as sanctimonious.

I am a widow but I thought the post was funny its so true especially about the dish washer what is it with men and loading the dish washer?. Put the roll roll on the wrong way around he will then turn it back . Men!! Cant live with them and its horrible without them.

MawBoon you have a Big Problem.

Love the bickering, very entertaining. xx

Stirring marnie??

I loved the OP descriptions and chuckled. Then the awful comment that followed on what I read to be a witty post.

I fill a small basket with toilet rolls that stand by the toilet.
The toilet roll holder had detached itself from the tiles waiting to be fixed back No takers yet on that.