Not reading the whole thread

x posts, wilma. Thanks for the reply. I've forgotten what I said so will go and look it up ?

A question that I've asked before: how does one know on Gransnet if one's post has been ignored? Unless one has asked a specific question that nobody answers, on what actual evidence do people base their conclusion that their post has been ignored?

And even nobody answering a question is not proof of it being ignored. It could just mean that no-one knows the answer or doesn't want to answer.

I've often opened a new thread that nobody has responded to. Perhaps it has been ignored or perhaps people have read my post and simply had nothing to say. Perhaps they've even ignored it. Am I hurt? Do I think everyone is being rude?

Nope.

Now all of you who say it's rude not to read a whole thread should jolly well be reading all that or you're hypocrites!

Or do you only have to read a whole thread if you're planning in advance to post on it?

Drop the rules, peeps! Just muck in.

Sometimes a thread has gone on for pages and pages before you decide to add to it (whether having posted previously or that being your first post) janea and it is quite hard going to read every post before replying.
I do skim read but often miss some important or salient point and I am sure that most posters do the same.

CARE - I like that - I do care but

Having just read the whole thread again could I plump for Bagg’s original idea, eye-her-twit. Succinctly sets the record straight without appearing to be rude and dismissive. (Just do think that matters Baggs, far too late for me to try and explain why now).

It is really not practical to read everything on some threads if you do not come in at the begining.
Some of these threads get very long indeed. An acronym is a good idea,

Baggs I read every word - promise! Don't have all the answers though.

It is different without jings and I've not noticed anybody new who is as 'direct' . There's a couple who I think could be keyboard warriors who just don't seem to care who they upset and being a bit of a snowflake, I find that unpleasant .

Anyway I vote for asking GNHQ to make here like mumsnet where every post by the OP is in a different colour. I'll get used to any acronyms too.

I think you're onto something there, alima. IHRTWT (aye-her-twit) doesn't have any of the unfortunate connotations that CARE has. As a word care means nothing negative, not even an omission. IHRTWT could be shortened to IHRE where E is for everything. It's just a statement of fact: nothing more, nothing less. There might be any number of reasons why someone making that statement hasn't read the whole thread, none of which include rudeness.

What nelliem says. Spot on. ?

? to wilma

IHRTWT on this coming to it late ICBA but most of the time IRE but don't always understand the acronyms used anyway so JSPT (justskippastthem)

I sort of see all the threads on GN as on going conversations and see myself as popping in when I’ve got time to listen or say something, usually of no consequence.

So I treat all the threads as just like real life, amble in, listen - perhaps add to the thread and amble off again.

Sorry, got the “aye” bit wrong.
Just thinking Baggs, if it doesn’t matter, why does it matter using an acronym at all?
(With you there Wilma and Baggs, I also think GN has changed for the worse without Jingle. Cue harrumphing).

On reflection, CARE could be rude so I go with Baggs original suggestion. I also like the idea of the op's subsequent posts being highlighted.

I miss jings but don't see what that has to do with this.

I don't like CARE, could be used to have a dig at posters , and I don't use that word ?

I agree about CARE being problematic. Pity. On the way back from grocery shopping just now, I thought of another possibility: NRA (not read all) but our US members might confuse that with the National Rifle Association so, on reflection, maybe not.

I think, after all, that whitewave's attitude is best: amble in, listen to some, join in, amble out. There is nothing rude about that.

It was just the complaints about people not reading whole threads that started this. SO!... tough luck, moaners. We have responded to your complaints with great consideration and decided that your complaints were unjustified and we don't actually have to take any notice.

We're sorted, dudes! ?

Dusts hand off and buggers off teawards ☕️

If anyone else wants to lobby HQ in favour of an acronym, feel free ?

I also don’t like too many rules - mostly because I can never remember half of them.
So let’s relax and muddle on as usual.

And if that has been said already - oops!

Agree MawBroon

Of course there is nothing to stop anyone posting any acronym at the start of any comment they make. It doesn't have to be an "official" one. If some people don't understand it they can always ask.

Been thinking about this, and decided that I have no need to ‘flag up’ my reading status when joining in with a thread by using an acronym.

If I respond solely to the OP, I say so.
If I respond to someone’s comment specifically, I use her/his name.
Otherwise, I just comment.

So let’s relax and muddle on as usual.
That sounds like an excellent philosophy

That comment was to MawBroon btw - and anyone else who may be interested