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Listen to those who tell you "yes you can" not to those who say "you're not good enough" and then play it forward.

I'd advise myself to try not to be so self centred, and be kinder to others. I think however that many of us evolve as we age and it's never too late to start again!?

Accept my place at York and not go to Cambridge because I thought it would be so much better.

Don't agree to marry the man before you have met the parents.

Take much better care of your teeth!!

To devote my energies to being kinder, and not necessarily smarter. I think on occasion over the years, I've got those two in the wrong order. [Rueful button, please]

Annodomini. I agree with you. Also when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

I look back on my choices, maybe with hindsight I could have done things differently, but if I hadn't made the choices I did I wouldn't have my DD & DGSs, wouldn't have met my wonderful DH & now as a widow living close to DD, new area, new friends, exciting new life.

I probably wouldn't have listened to "my advice" when I was younger

Don't waste so much time and effort trying to help people who won't try to help themselves.

I would Advise myself to do EVERYTHING differently, every decision I have made I regret. I have not had a happy life in any respect.

I would have told myself to pay more attention at maths as it would be very useful.
Just because you are quiet it doesn't mean that you are worth less than a noisy person.
Don't feel ugly, one day hair like yours will be all the rage.
I would have liked to have learnt the art of small talk and diplomacy - and just because you have an opinion sometimes it's better to keep it to yourself.

I would also add don't worry so much - many things aren't worth worrying about and you often can't change them anyway.
Many of the biggest challenges you face will be things to which you rarely gave a second thought.
It's not necessarily what happens to you that counts - it's how you deal with them up here (taps forehead) that makes all the difference.

Study more at school and be confident that you can achieve your dream.....to others I am sure they think I have had a good career but.....the if onlys have kicked in atv66 years old!

krazykat - at one with you there!

I’d have said to myself as a teenager in bobby socks in convent school at 18, if your mother won’t/can’t tell you about the birds and the bees find, beg, someone who will.

The same as mollie but in different words: ‘if you spend all your time trying to please everybody you’ll end up pleasing nobody.’

I'd say for crying out loud don't spend so much time on bloody housework!!!

I cannot say, because any choice I would have made might have meant I no longer had my beautiful daughter and DGC, so, I wouldn't change a thing, despite some of the horrors I lived through!
The only advice I would give is to don't sweat the petty stuff, and don't pet the sweaty stuff!

I would have advised myself to train for more than one career (always wanted to work in a library as well as being a teacher), to buy lots of properties when they were dirt cheap which I could have rented out for my pension fund, to divorce earlier and look for a second relationship which was better than the first.

School - I needed to ask when I didn’t understand, not to give up. I needed to be taught how to learn, everything had come so easily in primary school.
Home - My father deserved far more love and respect; my mother was not, as I thought, always right.

I would tel myself not to be in such a hurry to get married and have children. I've been happily married for 50 years so turned out ok, but I should have got to know myself better before I tied myself to one person.

Like others - should have made more effort to follow my heart and wish I'd known that some people do inherit their parents' behaviours

Today I tend not to worry too much what others think, but back in those days I did worry and did what I thought I ought to do and not what I wanted to do

I wouldn't change a thing, so I'd let my younger self go happily blundering on.

Except....I'd have picked unlucky 13 over my birthday number the day we got the five Lotto numbers back in 1994. The £1200 was very nice, but the £3 million might have been even better!

I would ask my younger self to try to always be kind. What goes around comes around. Be true to myself, I am good enough, I don't have to impress anyone. Don't sweat the small stuff and it is nearly all small stuff.

I would ask my younger self to try to always be kind. What goes around comes around. Be true to myself, I am good enough, I don't have to impress anyone. Don't sweat the small stuff and it is nearly all small stuff.