what??

I would Advise myself to do EVERYTHING differently, every decision I have made I regret. I have not had a happy life in any respect.

Don't waste so much time and effort trying to help people who won't try to help themselves.

I look back on my choices, maybe with hindsight I could have done things differently, but if I hadn't made the choices I did I wouldn't have my DD & DGSs, wouldn't have met my wonderful DH & now as a widow living close to DD, new area, new friends, exciting new life.

I probably wouldn't have listened to "my advice" when I was younger

Annodomini. I agree with you. Also when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

To devote my energies to being kinder, and not necessarily smarter. I think on occasion over the years, I've got those two in the wrong order. [Rueful button, please]

Take much better care of your teeth!!

Don't agree to marry the man before you have met the parents.

Accept my place at York and not go to Cambridge because I thought it would be so much better.

I'd advise myself to try not to be so self centred, and be kinder to others. I think however that many of us evolve as we age and it's never too late to start again!?

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Listen to those who tell you "yes you can" not to those who say "you're not good enough" and then play it forward.

You did well! .....but you could have toned it down a bit!

That I am not responsible for everyone elses happiness.
And just because I grew up with bullying parents it doesnt mean I'm useless and I dohave a mind of my own.

Oops....yourself

Just get on with it! Don't hestitate for fear of not suceeding or making a fool of yoyrself.

That should be 'on' a man who drank!

Not to waste time of a man who drank.

Not to worry abut things I had no control over or that hadn't even happened.

Younger self ?what age ?.
Until I reached my mid thirties when asked to jump I would say how high? Then a move to a different part of the UK due to DH work, my past was behind me as a change of scenery, a new home meant I made new friends and I was able to obtain a better job. This made me realise I should have grown some long before that but I soon made up for it with no regrets..

Never trust a man with contraception! Always rely on yourself....!

To be more independent, and not believe people who told me that I couldn't do something.

I would have taken better care of myself. Not eaten all those chocolates, gone to more exercise classes and cleaned my teeth a lot more thoroughly.

Say what you really feel even if it means upsetting someone else holding it all inside doesn't help anyone at the end of the day

Move out of London! ASAP!!

Ditto with icanhandthemback !

Oh yes, cornergran so very true, to me aged eight “she won’t bite, just tell her you like her and you would like to be friends”; perhaps sixty years of sadness and feeling I had wasted an entire life wondering “what if” might have been avoided, one way or the other.

I would tell myself to learn to drive. It's held me back for years. On the other hand, I'm sure I wouldn't have made a good driver.