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mollie Fri 12-Jan-18 12:28:45

As I flicked through some magazines today I caught myself thinking ‘everyone’ featured or pictured was at least one generation younger and wondering where magazines aimed at me were. Then I heard my mums voice in my head, raging at another poor M&S manager for not stocking stuff suitable for her (she’s been doing it for the last 20years and I have no idea what she’s looking for) and that put me in my place. The point of all this is that at 60 and 10 months I’m not sure where I fit anymore. Do you? Lots of shops and print media seem aimed at the younger market and I don’t feel ready for those that are targeting the older market. There’s a thriving chick lit market for fiction but the attempt at hen lit just disappeared. Why? Life doesn’t stop at 50 so why don’t we want to read about women of our age?

Someone once said that it’s better to make friends with the younger generation, is that how you feel? Should we pick and choose from everything on offer whether it’s aimed at a different market or do you want stuff that you think is appropriate for your age? Are you happy with things as they are or would you like the gap in the market filled?

Daisyboots Sun 14-Jan-18 20:09:02

I like novels by Hilary Boyd as she writes about people who have lived a bit and not in the first flush of youth. Just wish she published more than one a year.

ajanela I stopped colouring my hair in August mainly because it has thinned due to underactive thyroid problems. As I have it shortish it is now virtually white all over instead of golden blonde. My DH didnt want me to stop colouring it and still would prefer that I did continue.

ElroodFan Sun 14-Jan-18 18:34:30

Steam punk like the sound of that too. Must google it.

M0nica Sun 14-Jan-18 18:00:42

I don't think age comes into it at all. It is a question of size, shape and personal preference.

kittylester Sun 14-Jan-18 17:51:11

Maybe there something like age seemly or something rather than age Appropriate!

kittylester Sun 14-Jan-18 17:50:10

Dh and I were in m&s earlier and watched a woman about our age helping her husband/partner choose shoes. She looked brilliant in skinny jeans, short boots but it all went wrong above waist! She had a big, hand-knitted jumper, an anorak and a granny perm. It was very peculiar looking.

Obviously, I know what I'm talking about! grin

carol58 Sun 14-Jan-18 17:34:58

"HillyN I've never spent a fortune on clothes, even when I had a decent salary and it doesn't really bother me that people do. Their choice to spend their money that way but I think I can look good (enough!) in sales bargains & high st purchases then, like you, spend on living my life. Another six years at least to my pension & bus pass so won't be on any shopping sprees for quite a while! mollie think I've always been 'age fluid' in that case.....why wouldn't we be?

stevej4491 Sun 14-Jan-18 17:30:51

My late mothers comment on clothes was" if it suits the wearer b...er the starer"Totally live by that.

mollie Sun 14-Jan-18 16:55:34

Apparently, we are all now ‘age fluid’ - aren’t you glad to know that! In case it’s not obvious, it means we can pick and mix what we wear from all age ranges rather than sticking to stuff aimed at us. hmm

willa45 Sun 14-Jan-18 15:47:53

In my view, choices about what to wear after 50 or 60 comes down to finding something that fits. My shopping experiences are often very frustrating. I'm a size 16, of average height and evenly proportioned, yet a size L or even XL if often unattractively snug and or even downright too small. To illustrate, I own three (pullover) sweaters sized Medium, Large and XX Large respectively. Despite what it says on the labels, all three sweaters are the same size and should have been classified 'Large'.

To your point Monica...I like the French brochure you describe. Too often, older people are stereotyped as being technologically challenged or impaired in any number of ways. E.g. The old lady needing help to cross the street, 'old grandpa' scenarios where there's always trouble recalling, old person who drives badly, lady who falls and can't get up....too many negative stereotypes to list here.

We may have to start a campaign of our own by posting more positive images on social media. Some of us out there are still dancing, running, ice skating, playing sports. One of my good female friends aged 71, just ran in the NY Marathon (completed sixteen miles out of a twenty six mile marathon). I've seen more than a few seniors racing cars, sky diving, zip lining etc. ...We've also had quite a few prodigious musicians, mathematicians, scientists, writers, senior Nobel prize winners and some financial wizards, all in their eighties or nineties......you get the gist!

HillyN Sun 14-Jan-18 13:59:11

Thanks for your comments, Carol, I'm sure you are right and clothes are not that important to me anyway. Like you, I'd rather spend money on outings, holidays etc. I was just feeling a bit jealous last night, reading about some people spending hundreds of pounds on clothes, and it made me a bit grumpy. Only a year to go until I get my pension and bus pass, then I can go into town and treat myself to some new clothes!

grandtanteJE65 Sun 14-Jan-18 10:24:54

As far as clothes go, I find it annoying that it is very difficult to find dresses or skirts that are not designed for young women in their teenage years or twenties. I don't want to wear mini-skirts or clothes with sequins all over them. I would welcome a range of skirts and dresses knee-length or mid-calf suitable for everyday wear, as I do not want to wear jeans all the time.

Older people and women who do not look a if they have an eating disorder are being used increasingly in advertisements, and there are authors like Mary Wellesly writing about women in their sixties and seventies.

Maggiemaybe Sun 14-Jan-18 10:23:40

How odd that this has turned into another thread about clothes (wear what the heck you like, is my only comment on that).

As for reading matter, I’ve never really noticed a bias against older people, but perhaps it’s down to what I read. I don’t buy umagazines, so wouldn’t know about them. But Ann Tyler and Kate Atkinson are my favourite authors, and they feature plenty of older characters, with different, er, characters too so never stereotypical. I wouldn’t want something targeted directly at me, without a natural mix of ages though. One of the GN book club choices was set in a care home, and even though it was supposed to be funny, it was a depressing read!

As for the rest of the media, I think we’re fairly well represented. There are plenty of interesting older characters in Corrie, for example, and in newish series such as McMafia and Girlfriends. The older generation are prominent in The Archers as well. I’d say we’re pretty well catered for.

LongHaulGran Sun 14-Jan-18 10:13:40

@Amma54 - yes, just so, thank-you!

Janal Sun 14-Jan-18 09:31:16

I'm 86 and love bright colours. I have a scarlet jacket, bright turquoise top,orange tunic,and I have found they have all been admired,even had people stop me in Kew gardens (turquoise top) to be told I have brightened her day I don't get that in grey or brown.

loopyloo Sun 14-Jan-18 08:31:15

I think its not your age but your figure and shape that should influence your choice. I have a friend who is 70 who must be a size 8 or 10 who can wear clothes like a dress designer, whereas I, because I have eaten for comfort have to be much more careful. I am tall but feel like a cart horse beside her. But cart horses can be very useful.......

farmgran Sun 14-Jan-18 01:01:19

I'm 69 and I go for an outdoorsy hiking sort of look with t shirts and merino tops etc. Still love Joanna Troloppe books. Don't like new fiction much. Waiting for another Bill Bryson. Hope he hasn't stopped writing them!

WilmaKnickersfit Sat 13-Jan-18 22:34:40

Granmma the People's Friend definitely still exists because my Mum who is a stylish 77 gets little piles of it passed on from her 90 year old friend, who gets it passed on to her from a neighbour! My Mum doesn't want to offend her by saying it's too old fashioned for her, so she keeps them in the downstairs loo for a while and then recycles them (I like flicking through it)! The weird thing is the friend isn't at all old fashioned in other ways and loves keeping up with her daughters and granddaughters! grin

Theoddbird I love layers that, but when I'm tried lagenlook I was reminded of that Joyce Grenfell song

As Stately as a Galleon!

I will try it again though if I ever lose enough weight! grin

M0nica Sat 13-Jan-18 22:19:45

Age appropriate doesn't have a price tag, it is a state of mind.

Lilyflower Sat 13-Jan-18 22:16:29

I can’t afford age appropriate things on my pension so I mix and match with New Look jeans and pearls.

Theoddbird Sat 13-Jan-18 21:38:50

I have developed my own style.... I love the layering style...lagenlook. I suits my age (66). I wear linen and cotton. Love 'statement' necklaces...usually bought in charity shops... So develop your own style...take no notice of trends and fashion...simple

GrandmaMoira Sat 13-Jan-18 21:37:20

Aruna - I've sent a request to join the older readers FB page. I belong to other FB groups for readers so that sounds just right for me.

GrammaH Sat 13-Jan-18 21:25:07

I'm coming up to 60 this year, wear size 12/14 And wouldn't entertain the idea of looking at any clothes specifically aimed at the over 50s e.g.Fifty Plus! Why would I? I wear what I like & what I feel good in. Some days I look smart & my clothes are perhaps from the higher end of the market with some cheaper accessories & some days it's casual from Matalan or Primark with perhaps a more expensive scarf or bag. I like White Stuff and Joules but I use a local boutique with lots of makes including Out of Xile, Sandwich & Masai, all of which feel like they're my style & could be worn by anyone from 16 to 100. As for books, I'm a devotee of crime fiction & I'm quite sure these are aimed at anyone. I can't imagine what sort of book targets the older person but, as far as magazines are concerned, does the Peoples' Friend still exist?!

Granny23 Sat 13-Jan-18 20:44:10

Today, many women are still working well into their 60s, so the bulk of their wardrobe will be clothing appropriate to their job/profession. I was fortunate in being able to retire when my DH did back in 2004. At that time I had a wardrobe full of 'workwear', mainly trouser suits with light jumpers for winter and blouses for summer + a few 'dinner dance' type outfits and a suitcase with cheescloth tops and cotton/linen trousers for the summer holidays.

I kept my best 'business suit' and long black raincoat for funerals, etc. and took the rest to a charity shop, then built up a mix and match, smart casual wardrobe mainly from browsing in charity shops where I can afford quality clothes beyond my means in proper shops. Day to day it is skinny jeans and T shirts or jumpers depending on the weather for working around the house and in the garden.

DH has his Kilt with 3 different jackets to wear on formal occasions but insists on getting dressed, every day, in collar and tie, shirt, smart trousers and jacket - his idea of 'leisure wear' - having spent his working life in jeans or dungarees and padded check shirts.

WilmaKnickersfit Sat 13-Jan-18 20:23:32

Mollie I wrote something similar to you and I'm 22/24. One thing you might like to try is looking online for something you've seen in a shop that didn't go up to your size. Lots of high street shops don't offer the same size range as they offer online. Next is one example where I can't find my size in store, but it is available online. It's a weird situation, but I have noticed it quite a few times. I quite like the Yours shops, but I haven't shopped in Evans for as long as I can remember. Another thing to bear in mind is that shops have different sizes in different ranges and also change the range of sizes every now and then. That's why I like eBay so much because someone might be selling something from a shop I like that doesn't do much my size at the moment.

M0nica it is a lot about confidence. I understand my body shape and what suits it as well as what to avoid. It was important to me at work that my size didn't detract from my work, especially in predominantly male environment. Prejudice against fat people is a real thing.

carol58 Sat 13-Jan-18 20:12:55

HillyN I'm also one of those that missed out on a pension at 60. I've had to become self employed to make enough to enjoy my life and just refuse let the pension thing get me down! As for clothes, I'm sure what looked good in your 50s still looks great now. I'd rather spend most of my disposable income on doing things these days.