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Teetime Sun 21-Jan-18 10:38:04

We went out yesterday evening for an anniversary dinner and I confess I would rather have had a meal at home. As the restaurant is within 15 mins walking distance that's what we did on an very icy night thinking the exercise is good for us and then DH can share a bottle of wine with me. The restaurant was crowded and noisy- the food was good but not excellent and I was exhausted by the time we got home.
I'm thinking now that is this a sign of ageing not wanting to go out in the evening- anyone else sharing this feeling with me?

paddyann Thu 25-Jan-18 17:01:36

Marydoll we always go to the main concerts but this was the first open stage we've been to .Strangely we met friends form 50 miles away at it as they had seen the same folk band before .So it turned out quite a sociable evening.There was a fab guy ,last act who played a double bass and sang "politically relevant songs" About things you dont hear in the news ,things missing from life ,man flu and a really funny one about a generic voodoo doll ,it was hilarious.Well worth going and we'll go up next week and take pot luck about who is performing

KatyK Thu 25-Jan-18 14:12:30

Teetime It's very easy to get into a rut and of course some people are very happy that way. We have had a rough few years but (touch wood) we are both OK at the moment and we intend to make hay while the sun shines while we still can. Nothing too exciting - a trip to the cinema, a glass of wine or a bite to eat in out local Wetherspoons or meeting up with friends every now and then.

Marydoll Thu 25-Jan-18 12:16:37

Oh it's ages since I've been to Celtic connections, Paddyann.
My colleagues and I used to go after school, have a pre-theatre meal and then go to a performance. It was never a late night. I loved the atmosphere. Glad you enjoyed it.

ReadyMeals Thu 25-Jan-18 11:39:14

Grannyscalpay I am glad someone else is like me. I have hobbies and they are all indoors. Last time DH and I went on a week's holiday about 20 years ago we got so bored we swore we'd never go away again and we never have.

Teetime Thu 25-Jan-18 11:20:30

We've decided to go out at least one night a week for a meal now - this town is positively rippling with cafes, bars and restaurants. We love cinema but if we go in the evening I nod off so its afternoons for us. I am looking for an evening activity. DG would like me to take up Bowls as he plays and is a coach but I keep going down to look and it just does make me feel old and the clothes!!!!!smile

paddyann Thu 25-Jan-18 11:12:58

for any Glasgow area grans ,we went to see a folk group last night at Celtic Connections.It's a new band that we've seen before and this was a bigger audience being recorded for Celtic Radio.It was on from 5pm until 7pm at the Concert Hall on the Danny Kyle Open Stage ,5 acts with 20 minutes each and it was brilliant.The time means grans who dont want a late night can be home early and there are a different 5 acts every evening for the whole festival.Oh ...and its FREE.So all it costs is your transport ...and a drink if you feel inclined .Early evenings need never be boring again.Well not until mid February .

Franbern Thu 25-Jan-18 11:04:13

My normal evening begins as it starts to get dark. Close the curtains, switch on lights, and then go upstairs to get undressed and into nightie and cosy fleece dressing gown. Once I have eaten (I do so very early), then settle comfortably on my chair with legs up on stool, with knitting in hand, mug of green tea and tele on ( I always record programmes so can watch whatever I fancy in the evenings).
I do belong to several organisations that have evening meetings, never mind going to these in the Spring and Summer, but have to really give myself a strict talking to so that I can attend during winter months. Did find a couple of years ago that I was not attending many of these, and now make myself go. I know they have to be in the evenings as many of those in attendance are still working, but do find them hard.
But can remember when I was younger, loved evening outings and meetings, often starting out at 9 o'clock or even later. Very much a daytime person now.

jamsidedown Wed 24-Jan-18 13:16:40

.Bellanonna yes, evening yoga leaves me feeling very relaxed!

GabriellaG Wed 24-Jan-18 12:42:43

Bridge, bowls, U3a, choirs and geology lectures and talks plus afternoon cinema seem to be very popular with the over 55s.
Personally, I'd never go to any of those activities. I'd feel as if I had one foot in the grave. I like running, horse-riding and racing and belong to a few of the Meet Up groups one of which is urban photography. I also enjoy rowing, having been introduced to gig racing when holidaying on St Martins (Isles of Scilly)

GabriellaG Wed 24-Jan-18 12:30:51

* on my own.

GabriellaG Wed 24-Jan-18 12:30:14

No Mollie, it doesn't sound odd, to me anyway.
I have no qualms about having a meal in my own in a restaurant and emphasise that I want a decent table, not one near the back.

GabriellaG Wed 24-Jan-18 12:18:37

Grannyknot

Seinfeld...???
I know the stand-up you mean. I loved the series and his solo shows.

GabriellaG Wed 24-Jan-18 12:15:15

Many restaurants and pubs, right across the board, have dispensed with carpets and tablecloths thus making their premises an echo chamber. Chairs scraped across tiles or wood, clattering tableware and the din of loud chatter ruin it for me. IMO, it's nothing to with age, I simply want to be able to enjoy the meal without a cacophony of sound leaving me feeling wrung out. It's not a pleasant outing any more unless you dine at places such as Claridges, Clos Maggiore, The Langham and any of the top London establishments where your celebration is prioritised by staff from entry to exit. As a once yearly expenditure, it's worth every penny to be treated as a treasured guest.
During the rest of the year I entertain at home, getting meal and different recipe ideas from YouTube or buying meal deals from Waitrose or M&S if I don't want to spend time prepping.

Teetime Wed 24-Jan-18 10:59:13

KatyK i really am going to try to follow your example. I feel we are getting in a rut. DH goes to Bowls a couple of times a week in the evening and I watch rubbish TV. This has got to stop. Must find some other people to go out with but not to bowls!!!!

KatyK Wed 24-Jan-18 10:46:38

I love going out in the evening. We go out as much as possible. We are retired and are here all day just the two of us. The evenings can get monotonous so we go out a couple of times a week. There may come a time when we can't, so we enjoy it while we can [simle]

Witzend Wed 24-Jan-18 08:12:23

Agree so much about driving at night. I'm fine in well lit urban areas, or on motorways, but will nowadays avoid like the plague driving on unlit country roads at night. Never used to think twice, but night vision does apparently deteriorate as you get older.

Bellanonna Tue 23-Jan-18 23:48:28

Jamside, like you I always go to the cinema in the afternoon. My friend and I meet for a snack or a coffee first and then sit back and enjoy a relatively quiet showing with not too much rustling going on. When the evenings are light DH and I sometimes have an early evening meal out, but are back before it’s dark. Like many, I have virtually given up night time driving.
I hope your evening yoga class helps with sleep. I very occasionally go to an evening Pilates class if I’ve mussed my daytime one, and I find it really helps me to relax.

overthehill Tue 23-Jan-18 23:42:19

Yep I'm not keen for all the reasons mentioned here. However, did a biggie the other evening. We were bought a voucher for a comedy night in the West End of London so off we went. We live in London so not totally alien to us, but the city if we go, is usually a daytime occurance. I expected not to get a seat on the tube, I expected drunks slumped in the gutter and was slightly nervous about being out that late. Nevertheless, we had a great time and no problems at all.

Nelliemoser Tue 23-Jan-18 23:41:07

I am a lot less keen to go out at night now even in the car.
I had to drive myself back from seeing the DGs's on Monday night that is 50 miles over the Peak District. I did not enjoy it at this time of year and we usually share it.
It was just getting really dark by about 5pm.

I go out on two nights to two different choirs and in the winter months one night a month to a Geology lecture at the local university Campus.

The journey to the first choir is straight forward up one big road for about ten miles and the other one is much shorter a bit more bendy but not too busy.

The journey to the university campus is not a lot further but just more complicated. Roads are fast and busy and it is always dark and quite scary.

It is not the distance it's self that is the problem but how complicated the journey is. I am feeling my age right now.

jamsidedown Tue 23-Jan-18 23:04:21

Being not too long retired, I find it a treat to go to the cinema in the afternoon when it’s lovely and quiet. I hate it when it’s full and noisy, with people rustling sweet wrappers and the smell of food. Also, as I don’t eat meat it often seems the case that I can cook tastier meals at home than the sad veggie offerings in some places. I do go to a yoga class in the evening but come straight home afterwards at 9 pm, that’s a late night for me!

Welshwife Tue 23-Jan-18 22:51:11

We are more who chose to go out at lunch time except perhaps in the light evenings. We find eating our main meal at lunchtime suits us better too.
The main exception to this is when we are traveling between U.K. nd France. I eat very little when we are travelling or I am sleepy so we eat either at the port or on the ship depending on sailing times. The Brittany Ferries overnight ferries have a lovely á la Carte restaurant. However we do try and eat as early as we can - which on some boats is happily from 6-30pm.

grannyscalpay Tue 23-Jan-18 19:38:33

I think it depends on your personality. All the things I enjoy doing most are in the house. As I get older, I don't want to waste too much time doing the things I don't really enjoy.

Doris2017 Tue 23-Jan-18 18:21:42

A real homebird nowadays. Like to visit my two best friends and their husbands locally, but we eat at 6.30 and home by 9pm! Still work 30+ hours per week and does my husband. Love socialising with the family and friends at the weekend - for lunch, and in the summer we BBQ at home and each other's. I was a true party animal in the 70's and 80's. Don't feel guilty reading how everyone else feels! Currently snuggled up with the dog watching Call The Midwife on catch-up!!!!

pollyperkins Tue 23-Jan-18 18:04:49

Well Kirbygirl, I did! They come under the general heading of meetings - I thought it would be too long and boring to describe all the meetings, clubs, evening classes and talks I go to! But I wish more of them were in the daytime especially in the winter!

Jane10 Tue 23-Jan-18 14:07:15

GN Burns lunch this week is pretty ideal for me. Good time of day, good company and most likely good food. Then home for the evening. Lovely.