Happy Valentine's Day

No, I think of Valentines Day as a couple thing, not a family thing. When I was a teenager I used to receive two cards written by my mum, although she denied it!

This thread certainly shows that we all have different perceptions of sending Valentine's cards.
It's a family joke in our house and one year when he forgot, DD actually asked him where her card was.
My husband (and I) are horrified that him sending a card to my DD for the last 30 years has been deemed inappropriate by some posters. There is nothing sleazy about it. He is one of the most honourable men I've ever met.
However, as it is a forum, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect that, but it has upset me a little bit that a bit of innocent fun has been misconstrued as some sordid.

I have always understood Valentines gifts, cards etc, to be a gesture to ‘my’ Valentine or would be Valentine. Now it seems to be a thing to send them to all and sundry! Last year, when I was shopping for a card for my Valentine (husband), there were some chocolate hearts beside the till. The women in front of me bought three. I joked to the Assistant that she had several Valentines! She replied with a roll of the eyes, “I had one the other day who bought eight. She said they were for her sisters and her neighbours”! I think it’s enough that the price of flowers increases four fold without people making mugs if themselves. Buy people gifts sometimes of course, but can’t Valentines Day just be left for Valentines?

How odd to even think I would

I always send DS2 a card on Valentines Day, but that’s because it is his birthday!

Good gracious, definitely NO

No! Never would. It's supposed to be about 'romantic love' aka sexual, so totally inappropriate.

Oh henetha do tell us more!!

I'm amazed! Never have, never even thought about it. Didn't realise some people did. Perhaps I live in a parallel universe. My husband and I don't send each other Valentine cards or gifts either: just plenty of LOVE. We have better things to do with our money.

Yes, it is very American - and that's where my grandchildren are!! It hasn't even occurred to me to send them anything. Maybe I can get a rush delivery of something on Amazon!! Thanks for the reminder!

I am amazed that anyone would send a Valentine card to their own child or GC.

As others have said, they're intended for those already in a romantic relationship or those one would like to have as a boy/girlfriend. It seems totally inappropriate (repugnant even) to me to send one to one's child or GCs.

No wonder mollie had trouble finding one that was appropriate!

Sending Valentine cards to lots of people appears to be quite usual in the USA. So I send an "e-card" Valentine to all my family over there.

I never had a card of any description, Valentine or otherwise, in all the 32 years I was married to my husband (now deceased).
But this morning I had an online card from someone I didn't expect to get anything from. Gosh. {blush}

Yes...all 5 of them. They are my one true loves, however, my ex still sends me a Valentine's card and flowers as he has done every year since I've known him. This is the 22nd year since our divorce and I have someone else in my life but the love and respect we had for each other, still (in some measure) endures.

I've never sent any to dcs or Gdcs. I suspect Gdcs (one and a half and not far off 3) are rather more interested in other Granny stuff - like 'helping' me mix up pancake batter yesterday! It ended up a mite lumpy but pancakes still tasted fine.

The elder one was busy at nursery yesterday, making a card for Mummy and Daddy.
Dh is away, but phoned this morning to say he'd left me something in a drawer - a card and favourite chocs.
I had forgotten to get him anything before he went away! Don't think he's bothered, though.

Don’t send any. I don’t receive any either. Oh dear, poor me. I suppose I could send one to myself.

No, not something we do either. My eldest son calls it a 'Hallmark' invention and neither he nor his wife send cards to each other. The Wonderful Man left me a gift of a CD this morning, yesterday I bought myself lots of flowers (from Lidl) and told him he didn't need to bother.

No. Never have????

I must confess that at first I was really puzzled by this question. Growing up in Oz in the 1950s and 60s Valentines Day was mostly unrecognised and seen as a rather sentimental "American" thing. When it started to become more mainstream (or more commercialised) over the last 20 or 30 years it only applied to lovers, whatever their actual status. My first thought is why you would send a Valentine to your children or grandchildren? I dearly love my 3 children and 7 grandchildren and try to express that in many ways but would never send them a Valentine card.

However, on balance, I guess that it doesn't matter how you show someone that you love them as long as you do it. That is the most important thing and we all do it in our own way. So I started this post with a sniff and ended with with a sniffle. A Valentine bouquet to all Grans. What a lovely bunch. ? ??? ? ?

It's never occurred to me to do that

No, I've never done that. It might lead them up the garden path by wondering about a secret admirer. As a widow Valentine's Day is not for me but I am thinking about those wonderful boxes of pink chocolate made by Lindt. Oh stop it - remember the diet.

Nope, never ever had one from my husband in all the years I knew him. He thought very lowly of the 'unnecessary' celebration even though he was a romantic to the core. Far more than me, I might add.

I think it’s a bit weird sending romantic cards to anyone you aren’t in a romantic relationship with ( or would like to be). I forgot it was Valentine’s Day so no cards from me, but might make him a heart shaped piece of toast later. I don’t think I would have liked a Valentines Day card from my Dad tbh.

Love all around. Give cards, gifts to those you feel like giving to.. Happy Heart Day!!

Card to my DH only. IMO Valentines Day is for lovers, for want of a better word and not really for father/daughters/grandchildren etc.