How does he know!?

Poor you. luzdoh, that's so rude. especially as they know you are disabled. For people who want to use us as a stopping over place, actually it's usually somewhere to park their visitors, I've just discovered the perfect solution. I tell them about a friend who has started to do airbnb as she's a single parent and needs the income. It's nearby but no beds to make up or extra cooking for me.
www.airbnb.co.uk

In these days of mobiles, no excuse for not ringing first.

Angharad56 No! (you are not weird!) I find it impossible to deal with unexpected callers now. Especially as I'm disabled and might be having a bad day. I actually get upset with them but try to hide it. I think they should phone first. All my friends know I could be in a lot of pain and lying down. Perhaps I'm selfish, but having to entertain visitors who just drop in is really hard for me. Some travel up from where I used to live 200 miles away, and decide to call unannounced on their way to their holiday destinations further on. They could at least phone, even an hour before, but a week before is better. Even worse are those who use my house as a free B&B for a night's stop-over on their journey. It might have been great for me once but now I'm disabled and live with constant pain and frequent severe migraines, so the extra load is out of my scope. It's as much as I can do to take care of myself and often I have to let things slide until I can manage, such as tidying up or ironing. No matter how you explain there are some people who just cannot take this in.

This is making me laugh. What a tonic. I would love to not answer the door or phone but my OH cannot leave a phone ringing and it'll invariably be for me when I'm watching TV or otherwise very busy. I'll just get her.... I hear him say.
We used to have a neighbour who would Coo-ee, it's only me and come in anytime. We didn't lock the door. Once she came right into our ground floor bedroom when we were in bed! serves me right for not locking the door.

I stopped answering the phone or door when in the bath many years ago. If it's important the person will ring or come again.

But oh, dear, yes, the one day I decide to do the shopping before the washing up in the morning, the chimney sweep turns up and needs into the kitchen!

Before we moved to the other end of the country, I swore our grown up son could smell coffee from the other side of town, as he only turned up when there was a freshly brewed pot!

If someone rings while I'm eating or watching a program I like, I wouldn't even bother to answer the phone. I just use 1471 afterwards and decide when and if I want to speak to the callers. If it's an emergency, family and friends text me if I don't answer straightaway.

Everyone I don't mind visiting me whenever or is important to me has a key anyway so, if it's just a general knock at the door, I know it's a casual caller so I don't bother to answer most of the time but I do sneakily look at who might be walking down the path and call them back if I'm interested in speaking to them.

No karma here- if hes done it before by chance and he knows youre a creature of habit(which it sounds likely)he figures youl be doing exactly same thing next wk! try mixing it up a bit!

shw " It is no mystery drawn blinds /curtains could to someone who knows you indicate you may be having a lie in. So what is BIL's option other than to comeback later?"

The last time I didn't open my curtains my neighbours told me they were seriously thinking of breaking down the door! I now get up open the curtains and go back to bed!

I'm sure a friend of mine would let me tell you (she's at work right now). Her dear late father worked in Legal Matters and had to see all the evidence being presented before cases in The Old Bailey for example. Most things were horrific. Some slightly less so. For example he would have to watch videos in cases of pornographic infringement of the Law.

One hot summer day it was so hot in the Inns of Court, he went home with some videos of a pornography case and started to watch them on his TV. It was so hot he took off all his clothes except his pants.

Suddenly the door opened and in came his wife with, in uniform no less, the Girl Guide Commissioner and several Girl Guide Leaders coming to have a meeting!

Imagine these respectable ladies' reaction to finding the husband of one of their team sitting nearly naked watching porn in the middle of the afternoon!!

Angharad56

NO

When you decide to nip downstairs in your dressing gown, hair standing on end, to do a bit of vacuuming before you have your shower - and someone calls by!

I love my friends dearly, but hate unannounced visits. Am I wierd?

You have extended my life by a few seconds, by giving me a laugh, luzdoh.
I can imagine the embarrassment, tho!

marpau there must have been unbelievable levels of smugness!

Oldwoman70 Ah me! 'Tis my eternal dream to be looking perfect and smart when I open my front door.

Recently I was told a workman was coming to my house after lunch. I was ill, so I decided to lie down until 11, then shower and dress. I set an alarm in case I fell asleep.

At 11 I was naked and warming the shower water when I just managed to hear a banging on the front door. I grabbed a black "down" (more like man made fibre) filled coat and putting it on as I went downstairs proceeded to the door. It was the workman to sort out my floor problems. Early! I opened the door. As I was trying to say sorry I was expecting you later, my coat came undone across my bust exposing my quite big boobs. He laughed. I turned my back on him to let him through the door and I found my coat was not covering my bum. I tried to pull it over my embarrassed cheeks with no effect. I shoved him in the nearest room and hurried away to get dressed. He was doubled up laughing.

It was only the next day that I found I had picked up a small jacket, not a coat, to cover my nakedness.

AAAAAAGGGHHHH! and he has to come back!!

Shortly after we moved house hubby was going out for the morning so I decided to have a real good cleaning session and went through the whole bungalow. In the bathroom i spilled some cleaner on my t shirt so got washed and changed and tidied my hair. Within 5 minutes of hubby arriving home an ex colleague of his arrived with his wife to visit. You can't imagine how smug I felt this never happens to me I usually get visitors when the house is upside down and I am in oldest gardening clothes.

I understand you enjoy these visits so not complaining. It is no mystery drawn blinds /curtains could to someone who knows you indicate you may be having a lie in. So what is BIL's option other than to comeback later?

I'd love to have some of you gransnetters drop in, you're all so funny. Perhaps not now though, it's 10.45 am and I'm still in my jim-jams. Anyone in Devon out there? Love to meet up.

I always look the same . Clothes on hair combed, can't wear make up, so come and see me anytime. Unless I'm out with the dog, but I won't be long.????

Morning all! Very lovely day here. Fact is I only ever wear 'scruff' gear at home. So when friends and neighbours see me scrubbed up they always look surprised and that is a constant source of amusement. Glad they notice the difference! As for callers too early in the morning, I either answer in my dg or don't answer the door at all. The first method usually has an ensuing conversation and they tend to check if I'm 'decent' on future visits. All good. Delighted to still be having visitors.

Harris27 you made me laugh! I've got an old friend who always rings between her finishing her tea & Emmerdale

We would go away for the weekend and my mum would always call within 10 minutes of being back. How did she know?

It's also Sod's Law that people call in when the house is a tip, never when it's neat and tidy.

Laughed at this post my mother in law always rang just as we sat down to tea. In later years she would ring at 6pm and stay on the phone till just before emmerdle. Sadly she died in February and I wander about after 6pm like a lost soul!!

It's called Sod's law!