As a Mom of 3 adult children, I always felt that my Mother loved and favored my daughter over my 2 sons. My daughter was first born. She wast the first grandchild on either side and she was an absolute love. Unfortunately she grew up to be more like my Mother and seemed to love her more than me. It really hurt me and I struggle with it still. Our relationship is strained because of it. I have a lot of ambivalence regarding our relationship or lack of one.
Growing up as the middle child, I always FELT that my Mother favored my older brother because she seemed to love and value him more than me. He could do no wrong in her eyes, and I couldn't do anything right. He was mean and cruel to my younger sister and I, but somehow she never seemed to notice or acknowledge it (I never really had any kind of relationship with him and we have been estranged for most of our lives) I dislike him intensely and so does my husband and my children and we have had
no contact with with him or his kids. It is sad but true.
As a Mother and Grandmother I truly believe that it is not so much favoritism as it is a connection between one child over another. I have tried for 15 years to have a warm, fun, loving relationship with my 15 year old grandson and he does not relate or respond. He does not initiate contact, does not thank us for gifts & money that we send him. I have found him to be negative, sour, boring, opinionated, critical, spoiled and personality-less. I have to force myself to try to connect with him. I sense he does not like me and I honestly do not like being around him. It does not help that he lives 3,000 miles away and we only get to see our daughter and grandchildren once or twice a year.
On the flip side is my relationship with my 12 year old granddaughter, whom I adore. She is loving, caring, affectionate, generous, funny, smart, witty and we just click! It has been that way with us since she was born.
She responds, she is appreciative, non-demanding, easy and fun. She likes everything I do and more. It is easy and natural, not forced. She makes me feel like I matter and I think that is how the so-called "favoritism"
begins. I feel that I am as important to her as she is to me. It is mutual. She has a tremendous amount of empathy for animals and people. She has a huge heart and is so very kind and generous.
I could just go on and on about all of her wonderful personality attributes but you know, the sad thing is, I
can't think of one good thing to say about my grandson. I feel extremely guilty about it but it is shockingly true! But I have come to realize it takes 2 people to have a relationship and he never even tried or cared enough to have one with me. Maybe he was jealous of his sister's charisma...or the relationship she has with me. I wish I knew how to reach him.
I would love to hear from other parents and grandparents who are experiencing similar challenges .
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