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DH at seventy two suffered Vascular Dementia.In the last two years of his life he was given state funded social care at home this being in the form of a daily morning shower, dressing etc , he was a large man it took two . Should he wake in the night I had to make sure he was able to get to the toilet thankfully it was en suite. I did not want him to go fulltime care I know were it reversed he would have been the same for me . It was not an easy job but on three occasions in his last two years I was offered respite for DH.Two weeks at a time .I was grateful to be able to have a full nights sleep. The care homes, three involved , were privately owned although there were MANY residents subsidised by the state. Each room was ensuite.Beautiful gardens, two of the homes had sea views, where residents could sit in warm weather. There were both social care and private residents the latter would pay full price for the care. The residents without their own home or savings would be state funded.. Due to DH having savings and his own property he had to pay 75% towards the cost of these two week at a time residential care. I did not object I was glad to have time for myself
A person can work all their life, spend all their earnings emptying their bank account and the state will look after them. OR have some like yourself covering the costs maybe putting themselves without. You did what was best for her.Your MIL having no money of her own will I am sure qualify for state funding. You should not hesitate in looking into this it does not mean you are uncaring but as you are aware must now be thinking of your own future..