Bank holidays

Nanny27

nextdoor.co.uk

If you join nextdoor you can post to meet local people.

One lady on my local one posted for a coffee morning and now quite a few of them meet up regularly.

There is also a craft group that meet up once a week.

You're never lonely with a dog! I've got three!

If you don't want or can't have your own you could volunteer to walk a neighbours dog during the bank holiday?

Oops I see I had intended to have friends to lunch - but I find they have their DS and DIL for the day (just as well, I had forgotten!

After a manic 10 days with so much going on including 3 DGC for a sleepover last weekend, a trip to London for a birthday party, Granny duty for littlest DGS from Tuesday till last night, I can honestly say I am looking forward to a BH weekend of doing absolutely nothing
Just enjoying being at home with Hattie, lots of reading, pottering perhaps, maybe tidying out the shed if the weather improves, but I won’t be heartbroken if it doesn’t!
I will have to scrub up for Monday evening as I gave just been invited to an early supper, but oh the bliss of no obligations to be anywhere or do anything for a whole three days

Kind friends invited me to Sunday lunch and not wanting to face bank holiday crowds I spent Monday painting a fence and reading in the sunshine. In days gone by we might have had a run out into the dale and a pub lunch. As others say it’s different on your own but a challenge many of us face. Looking for the positives helps me.

FranT my condolences
We are in the same sort of boat as Paw died exactly six months ago today.
Normally I would not think of doing anything special at Bank Holidays, but I intend to make a point of inviting* friends who do not get out much (he has Alzheimer’s) for lunch on the next one.

Teacheranne, we also treated ourselves to a patio awning this year, complete with remote control. One of the best investments we ever made, hope you get yours repaired soon.

I'm lonely all the time since my husband of 49 years died last year. I'm lucky in that I have a Daughter, 4 Grandkids and lots of good friends, but at the end of the day, they all have their own lives. Our mobility car went back when my husband died, and I absolutely hate driving anyway, but do hate being dependent on others for transport. Bank Holidays etc are a nightmare, I try to keep myself busy, but have the attention span of a gnat and flit from one thing to another, not really achieving much at all,.Very grateful that my little dog keeps me company and amused, also have to go out to take her for a walk, as otherwise I just may hibernate

Admittedly, I do not live alone, but we completely lose track of bank holidays and just get on with our normal lives.

At my Tai Chi class last week I was apologising for missing this week because I was on holiday. Others were discussing what we would be doing at class this week. It took our (much younger) tutor to point out that this Monday was a bank holiday.

If I hadn't been away I would just have done the cleaning as usual and then been glad of the fine weather to be able to get out in the garden.

I've done the same Nanny27, looked to see if there's a local meet up but so far, no luck.
I know what everybody means about Bank Holidays but thankfully my family are usually around. This weekend I went house hunting with younger daughter and then had granddaughters birthday tea party (adult) to attend and had a lovely time. However I too often have weekends alone but just go out either to garden centre or into town. So far it hasn't been too lonely.

I am lucky that I still have DH but we don’t go anywhere on Bank Holidays due to the traffic and crowds. Instead we have a local lunch out nearby and spend our time pottering.

I well remember how desperately lonely I felt at weekends and bank holidays; even if I was busy, I still felt a keen sense of isolation.
For those that are too frail to get out, perhaps you might join a forum which interests you? e.g. > knittingparadise.com < or > rootschat.com <
For those that are able to get out, perhaps try searching "female social groups in UK" or substitute: "in county name". Groups such as Together Friends, Red Hats or Gateway, may be the answer to a whole new social scene.
If you live in or near Torbay / Newton Abbot, PLEASE come and join Black Bess Border morris dancing group. Make friends, have fun, get fit and lots of places to visit on weekends and bank holidays.

I think it’s very easy to imagine that at bank holidays everyone is having fun and doing something special, when in reality lots of people are just appreciating a bit of extra time off work and enjoying some downtime at home. And of course lots of people have to work anyway, nothing changes for them. I have been through what you are feeling Luckylegs9 but it doesn’t bother me these days. Much worse was when I was a young widow with a child - walking to the park and seeing Dads pushing their children on swings in the park was enough to make me turn round and come back home immediately. I’ve never remarried, and my daughter will be 30 this year, so I have had to get used to living on my own and in the main I have learned to enjoy my own company. There are lots of positives to it, but I have to admit to feeling cheated now of the life I should have had in retirement when I see friends with partners enjoying lots of spontaneous holidays and trips away. Not wishing to be a lone traveller this type of thing is much harder to organise, and harder to achieve on one income. I’m still working part-time but would like to retire before my State Pension age of 66 if I can. But I’m sure there aren’t many of us whose lives have gone exactly as planned and we just have to make the best of it, which I try to do. It’s not always easy, but generally I am content and count my blessings, especially as my first beautiful grandchild has just entered my life.?

Thank you. Yes I am new, when I asked for Allygran it was not accepted hence the 1. Finding it very interesting and enlightening. My sister told me about Gransnet so I thought I would see if I could contribute and also learn something as well. Other people's problems and issues often teach us that nothing is unique to ourselves is it?
Having to learn that some people don't really want another view but I will get use to the etiquette of it all.

Just that your username is so nearly identical. I wondered if you had left temporarily and returned and taken a name as close to your old one as possible.
That’s all.
Welcome, if you are new.

MawBroon no. Why do you ask?

Are you the same person as Alygran?

Sunseeker, I have just had an idea. Why don't you invite all the neighbours and friends to your home for a BBQ one weekend.
It might help to let them know your still available and want to join in.

Good luck with all this. You will find a way through it.

Sun seeker Clearly you are feeling a great deal more than just bank holiday blues. You have my full compassion. Your friends are not being kind and that must hurt a great deal.

The problem with these on line communications is that feelings are hidden as with this instance under a heading like this one of bank holidays being hard when your on your own. It sounds to me from what you have said and directed to me that every day is bank holiday blues for you right now.

I hope that you will forgive me. This is clearly a bad time for you. I sincerely hope that you can find a way through your sadness.
Good wishes

Greengage, I really admire your attitude and style. Ditto from me.

pinkjj27
Me too (SESurrey) but there ARE Meetup groups all over the place IF you care to travel to the destination. Sometimes the cost of travel negates the pleasure of the activity.

Just another day since I retired.
Coffee with a friend, shopping for a party dress for little DGD and luggage for big DGD 's 21st present.
Garden for an hour - watering and planting.
Could've been any Monday!

I recognise that all holiday times can be difficult and even lonely for those living on their own.
We are actually tired out though, from hosting family and friends ( nice though it is) over the three days.Now need a day or two to recover and clean up!

MawBroon - Well said! You seem always to talk more sense than anyone else!

Read this today and say good luck to you all on your own hope you find something to do that will make you's happy .