Marriage and Retirement

Did you and your spouse sit down and talk about the time when the main breadwinner would retire. Were you each able to express your thoughts, any plans you had. My husband is due to retire in a few years and I am getting more and more anxious. I realise I haven't had any (not one actually) of my hopes and ideas for the future realised because his career (and he) dictated so much of our lives. I have tried to broach things many times, but have not been able to discuss with any honesty. He has always lived in the moment, now with retirement a few years away and because of job loss a few years ago which resulted in no pension from that job, its really making me very concerned. Any one else experience similar and if so, how
did you manage things.