Soop's super supportive kitchen.

May I have a double brandy please ? Came on the forum, still in bed and only been awake few minutes. Photograph ‘we have snow’ , did eventually calm down a little when I noticed the date was Feb 2017.

So sorry all who are unwell or troubled x

Reading your post made me feel better greyduster! I’m sat in my dressing gown in a post holiday stupor, wondering why I was glad to be back in this grey, wet and windy place I call home! And my new high schoolers are similarly vague about their big adventure which seems to be much more exciting to them than the adults around them!
Right up and away this will just not do! Will pop back later when I am feeling more sociable! x

Good morning the kitchen. I am disappointed this morning. It is blowing fit to bust here; we were going to have a day on the East Coast. A walk along the cliffs at Bempton and then on to Filey, but the windy weather is not going to lend itself to that, so we have kicked it into touch. There will be another day I am sure.
Soop happy to hear you are up and feeling better. Don’t overdo it!
Ann that is a setback you certainly could do without. I hope you manage to find another respite home soon. You need those breaks.
We have been trying to phone DH’s sister for the past couple of days, but there is no reply. If there was anything wrong, someone would have told us, so we have come to the conclusion that she has put the phone somewhere again and can’t find it. Someone will find it and put it back, and then she will move it again.☹️ Keys are becoming a huge problem too. I wish we lived nearer.
morethan I am the one in this house who inspects and criticises workmen! We are still waiting for the plumber to come and start on our downstairs cloakroom. He put us off earlier in the year and now he is working on a commercial contract so we have to wait again. My solution? Find another plumber. DH’s solution? We know him so we wait!?
We picked GS up from after school football yesterday . Getting information out of him is like pulling teeth. “How was your day?” “Good thanks”. “Anything interesting?” “Er, no.” “How was football practice”. “Okay thanks”. At which point, if you value your sanity, you give up. If I had any sense I wouldn’t ask. Then, over an hour later, “Oh by the way, did I tell you I’m in the top set for maths?” And “Oh, did I tell you I have a place in the school team for tommorrow’s football match?”?‍♀️ Everything comes to grans who wait! Eventually.
Well. I suppose I had better formulate a plan B for my day. It should involve getting up at some point!. I will look in later.

Just caught your last comment as a closed the door ann and popping my head round the door to say that last comment made me

Love it Ann! And good luck with finding another respite home. (You may even find a better one.) I know that just having that facility in the background as a lifeline is a great help.

I only really popped my head around the door to say that it’s good to see Soop back at the computer and recommend an iPad. My first one lasted seven years and I’ve just replaced it as the old one was getting really slow, and it did everything itself! It found my old pad and transferred everything over without my doing a thing apart from switching it on. A bit unnerving really!

Must be off, DH is glowering a bit as I’m supposed to be going with him to the doctors and I’m not dressed yet!

soop I hope your feeling a bit stronger today, don’t push yourself too hard, baby steps. Why is it that when we’re ill/recovering we can see dust/stuff that’s never bothered us before and won’t bother us when we’re up and well again but drives us mad looking at it. The amount of times I’ve heard people who have been laid up say “they (normally husbands) haven’t cleaned it properly, when actually it’s somthing you haven’t noticed before! I hope your feeling a bit more positive this morning ann try not to loose the holiday feeling too soon. I hope you early risers can cope with your busy day. chaos I well remember my struggle with making a decision to retire or not. Can I just say retirement is nothing like being on sick leave. For me it’s simply being free from the restraints and stress of employment. Perhaps it will be an easier decision once you’ve been back at work a while. I’m going to try and persuade Mr Morethan2 to come out with me for a nice brisk walk on may be the last week of warm weather. I may not be successful because we’ve had the builders in since July (well on and off, when they can fit us in grrrrr) and he likes to spend hours inspecting and criticising their work I don’t know whose stressing me the most them or him. In the light of our other worries I’m trying to put it into prospective but someday I could scream n scream. I’ve rambled again. Hope today isn’t too difficult and if you can enjoy the day.

I am reminded of an incident from last week when reading about going through the medical dictionary in Chaos's post.
My GD's friend who went in hiliday with us is a hypochondriac, very unusual in a 20 year old.
We had a range of illnesses during the week, most of which we ignored, one was psoriasis for a slight red mark, she has had it before!!
However the final one was when she had a sore heel from wearing sandals which rubbed slightly and she said she thought she had Achilles heel ?

Morning everyone!
I am going to the hospital today I have Dendrictic ulcers in m my right eye which has flared up . Very very painful !
However I am more worried about getting there on time as if you are not there when they call you you don’t get another appointment. My concern is do l go to A34 or B34 I can’t remember ! Wish me luck .

You are not the only person a who is awake nannytopsy
I have put the kettle on.

soop ....so pleased to see you starting to improve. The I'thing still sounds like a good idea. Just dont spend your time looking at medical stuff....particularly A-Z's. I have reached the 'C' section and am only just recovering from Chikungunya Fever (or it may have been Cat Flu)

ann .... I shall leave it to your old friends, who know your story well, to advise. Thoughts are with you though, and I hope you reach a decision which is right for you

synonymous ... good that there is no infection. Whinging is fine! we all need an outlet now and then

kitty ...hope you had a lovely evening with DD. One to one times are such a treat, when they have such busy lives.

Maw .... just glad to see you back!

Thats all the catching up I can do without looking at a different 'page', and as that is how I lost yesterdays missive.... I am not taking the risk.
No offence intended if I have missed sending a good wish.

It seems I may be able to return to work in October. I am much better, but very nervous about the prospect. Seriously considering giving up altogether, but know my boredom threshold would be a problem after a few months. I was ready to strangle myself after six months, last time.
Much to ponder.

Not a frequent visitor but been awake since 3.20,racing brain.. should have popped in earlier had a cuppa with you Nannytopsy!! I don't know where anything is in here so will tiptoe into my kitchen so as not to wake anyone...all this thinking solves nothing... hope you all have a good day...

Just can’t get back to sleep. This is something I didn’t miss when I gave up work! I didn’t expect it to trouble me for a temporary return. Now my mind is full of things I need to do tomorrow and how to fit it all in. This is week 3 of probably 5 weeks, so nearly half way there. You will be getting up soon Willow! At least I stay in bed until 6.30.
Have a good day everyone and I hope your buggerations get sorted. Croissants on the side for your breakfast!

So glad you are feeling a bit better soop just don't try to do too much too soon as it seems to take longer to get better than the time you were unwell.

ann so sorry to hear about the disappointing new bother about December. Regarding what others say about looking for permanent care it would seem the most sensible solution if you are not to crumple under all the pressure. You could visit and feel better in yourself and really your DH needs you to be well and firing on all cylinders. Hard decision I know.

I took Himself to see his GP this afternoon and there is no infection in his wounds thank goodness and we just have to keep on with all that I am doing. A relief to know that I haven't done anything wrong which I did know really but you start to doubt yourself somehow. I got a bit worried about the whole appearance of everything even though it is not as gruesome as it was to begin with, silly me. I haven't slept at all well over the weekend but hopefully will get off soon! Sorry to be having a whinge but you need to tell someone. Sleep well!

Thank you for the warm welcome - I hark back to those days when the boys were young and I would happily bake cheese scones (never with sugar in them!!) and millionaire's shortbread - I'll bring some in next time I call

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better Soop but do take it easy - it takes several weeks to be back to full strength.

Ann I also wonder if the time has come to seriously consider a more permanent type of care. I know how hard it is to make this decision having been through it twice but I've also seen my cousin struggle on for so long with his wife battling not only PD and cancer but also latterly dementia until he was utterly exhausted and had to give in. It gave him the opportunity to spend more quality time with her rather than the constant lack of sleep and trying to cope.

On a funny note I've just watched a very comical video of a woman trying to squeeze into a waist cincher which was actually only size of her thigh - it ended up as an elastic band round her waist and her calling for the kids to bring the scissors

Nite all - back to 5 am starts in the pitch dark

Evening All Oh blimey ann, of course you’re struggling, you know the reality of caring and the respite was your life line. I’m afraid I’m agreeing with kitty and maw, is it time to consider a residential placement? Just so much you can do alone.

Good to see you soop, keep mending .

Your meal sounds lovely kitty, it was soup for me, back to trying for a little weight loss to take pressure off the knees. Guess I’d better stop baking .

Hello day6: do stay a while,

Off to bed now. Meeting a GN pal tomorrow, need to stay awake .

Hello to the new kitchen.
So sorry to hear your news Ann, I hope SS can help you. Do call them.
Pleased you are on the mend Soop, take big care of you.
Maw sending special hugs. These days are difficult. I am just about to have my 2nd birthday without DH. The kitchen is a sanctuary
Thinking of all those struggling and supporting loved ones.

ann I so agree with kitty and Maw voicing their thoughts about somewhere more permanent. H appeared to be happy where he has just visited- would that be an option? We cannot have you going into the doldrums of despair- you must get in touch with SS as soon as possible and remind them that you are no longer 29 and are finding it difficult to cope. Soon your holiday will be a distant memory.

Hello day6. Don't stand in the corner (someone will hang a coat on you ?). Come and join in with the rest of us. Don't worry about not knowing all that is going on. There are so many kitcheners it takes a while to catch up sometimes. ?

soop! Lovely to have you back. Are you sure you are up to it. Please don't overdo it and get poorly again.

ann what a blow to hear about the care home not taking people for respite. There must be somewhere else available I feel so frustrated and angry for you. Hope DH is on his best behaviour for a while.

kitty not keen on fish but if you have any cherries in masala left you know where to bring them ?

I have been lurking for a few days waiting to get Paw’s Birthday (yesterday) behind me but shocked to realise all the sadness around.
I sincerely hope Soop is on the mend and can offer Morethan only the sincerest of hugs.
Annsixty that must have come as a blow, but is it not perhaps a “sign” that full time care is the next step?
Forgive me if I am sticking my nose in, but I hear the pain, despair and dare I say, fear, in your posts.
Think on. Bon courage!

soop don't overtire yourself. You were talking about an ipad. Have you considered an android tablet. They are more basic and considerably cheaper.

Ann, I am sorry that you gave come home to more buggerations. It's awful to have your plans thwarted and very stressful for you. You need to sort something for your own peace of mind....unless you are now thinking that DH (and you!!) would benefit from something more permanent. DH is probably confused by the changes involved!!

welcome Day6, did you say you'd brought cake?

We have DD1 staying tonight. We don't very often get her all to ourselves so I must go and cook up something special - well salmon wrapped in pancetta and some cherries roasted in marsala to have with ice cream.

Back tomorrow - take care everyone!

It`s good to see your name at the top of posts again Soop, carry on getting better.
Ann, what a disappointment, nay, buggeration, for you. I do hope you can find somewhere else just as nice. Take care of yourself.

I have just typed a lengthy reply to lots of people, and the damn thing has vanished!
I have no time now to redo, so please accept that thoughts are with you all.

Back tomorrow, hopefully with more time.

I’m sorry annsixty it’s a really miserable feeling when the rug is pulled from under you. I hope you find (I know you will) energy to find somthing so you can have somthing to look forward to. Life can be sh..oops shoddy at times

Ann Buggerations galore! You were making such good progress and your holiday was a treat that you deserved to enjoy. Damn and blast it! It's a huge ask but...try to remain positive. Here is a (hug) from me to you. x

Day6 Welcome. Even I can't keep abreast of going-ons in this 'ere kitchen. Fear not. Come on in, put your feet up and enjoy the friendship. Funny thing is...the dishes wash themselves. The cake can be as virtual as you like...only the real thing makes for a celebration.

This is my first day out of bed for about a week. It is refreshing to pop in and catch up with all the Granspals, especially the new comers.

I am wishing to paint a portrait of a sweet cat that sadly died recently. Preparing the paints and such has cheered me no end. I cannot visit the care home tomorrow. I can wear my arty farty hat and hopefully capture the wee cat's gentle expression.

I shall log off now. Thank you for your company.

Nothing good to report I'm sad to say.
My H is behaving exactly as he was 2 weeks ago, everything back to normal.
The first blow was arriving at the care home to be told they cannot do any more respite care.
The rooms must be occupied by full time residents.
I had him booked in for the first 2 weeks in December when I had intended to have "my c,,,,,,,s"
I am devastated, I must start looking again and in spite of my holiday I just don't feel up to it.
Oh well, worse thing happen at sea.