Older mums?

* with our time

I think there are many women having babies in their mid forties, we have grown daughters who waited until their late thirties to have babies, the only fly in the ointment is that we were in our late sixties when they needed help with the little ones and are in our mid seventies now with small children who are like little dynamos. Is tough when grandparents are too old to be as helpful as they’d like to be though on the plus side we were retired and so could perhaps be more flexible with her time.

Dinomum besides which, a young child centric question
would be better asked on Mumsnet

Dinomum - you have hooked on to someone else’s thread
and need to start one of your own under an appropriate heading.

Hi everyone. I am new on here and I'm really hoping to find someone like minded or in a similar situation to chat to. I'm 51 and have an undiagnosed ODD 4 year old. I just burst into tears in front of her for the first time ever because I'm so lonely and frustrated with her behavior at home and at school. I've moved her school recently because of toxic relationships at her previous school with the kids and the parents but she's now being aggressive at her new school too and the school are as non communicative as the last one. It's her birthday on Tuesday and she has nobody but me to celebrate with her. I feel I'm really failing her. I am so sorry to start off with something so negative but really hoping someone out there has had similar experiences and managed to overcome them.

Prima grávida means first pregnancy. I was classed as an “elderly prima grávida” when I had my first child at 30, but a “young multi grávida” when I had my fourth at 35! My mother, grandmother and great grandmother all had children in their mid to late forties, so I’m glad I dodged that bullet! (consequently I have a great- aunt just a little older and an aunt a little younger than me.)

I had my first dd at 27. At that time ( mid 70s) anyone over 25 with a first pregnancy was regarded a geriatric mother. In capitals on the front of my file they wrote something like prima gravida. Old first time mother.
Makes you laugh doesn’t it.

I had my first at 20, second at 24 and third at 42. The first doctors and nurses I saw all assumed that the third was a mistake and I was looking for a termination - being 'geriatric'. It was most upsetting. There was 13 months between my son and first grandson, they were practically brought up together. After so many years of childrearing, I still have empty nest syndrome!

I had my youngest at 41 and she went to the same primary school as my eldest grandaughter.
Often used to pick them both up and would get get some strange looks when one said Mumma and one said Nanna when they greeted me.

I had babies in my early 20's and my early 40's so my youngest was just a tween when she became an auntie (and me a grandma). She loves her role as auntie to my five GC.

One plus is that I've never had empty nest syndrome - I've not had the time!

I was 31 and 34 when I had my two. Far too busy in my twenties! My DIL had her two when she was 34 and 37, I think. I was 68 when I became a grandmother. It all seems quite normal to me! (My father was 65 when I had my first child, and he protested he was too young to be a grandfather. He certainly looked too young.j

I was classed as elderly when DS was born 2 weeks before I turned 38!
My girls (adopted) were 12 and 10 when their little brother arrived.
DD1 made me a gran at 50 when she was 21.
I'll be 71 when DGC no 5 arrives in April!

I was menopausal (50+) with a hormonal teenager as I was 37 when she was born.
My mum was 39 when she had me, so she waited a long time to be a granny to my DC.

I have been a young mum (22) and an old mum (38).

It does seem quite a few PECS. However there were 676,000 births in the uk in 2016 so 238 is 0.035% of the births born to 50 plus year olds . I wonder how many were naturally conceived.

" In June data published by the Office for National Statistics showed the number of births to 50-plus women has quadrupled over the last two decades, up from 55 in 2001 to 238 in 2016. During that period there were 1,859 births in the UK to women over 50, and 153 to women over 55."

Hi, bookreader! I became a grandmother by my twenty-eight year old daughter when her youngest sister was eight. I was fifty-three at the time.

33 when I had my first 36 with second.
I would have struggled with a 7 y.o. at 53.

I was an older mother, having my 4th son when I was 42. His brothers at the time were 25,23 and 20.
Son is now 17. I am grandmother to 3 little ones.

It is exceptionally rare to have a baby over 50

No not here. I was 24 and 27 when DDs born but my mum and my MiL were both in their early 40s when they had youngest children. It s more common now for women to have children in late 40s early 50s. Especially if it is a second relationship. Enjoy your family!

Yup, I’m 53 with a 9 year old DS and granny to a 5 year old.
Sadly, I don’t get to see my DGS very often as we live abroad but we do FaceTime to keep in touch.
When they visit, my 9yr old enjoys playing with his 5yr old nephew and they got on very well despite having different interests.

I was 33 when I had DS2, and in hospital I was classed as an older mum. Our other two were 12 and 10.

My mother was 47 when she had my sister and my sister was twelve when I had my first baby. I did an awful lot of babysitting when she was tiny and she was with me a lot of the time after I got married and stopped work.