Cremation or burial?

Ankorumf

It's interesting to read about everyone's preferences for cremation or burial. Personally, I lean more towards burial.

Personally, I lean more towards burial. I came across your thread while I was looking for some info about funerals and death. Dealing with death in my family recently has made me reflect on these matters. By the way, have you heard about butterfly blue granite rileygardnermemorial.com/product/butterfly-blue/? It's this incredible material that can add a personal touch to a loved one's final resting place. I think it's a unique and meaningful way to create a memorial space that future generations can visit and connect with their ancestors.

Sorry Blondiescot I missed that.

sodapop

I've just been reading about Aquamation where the body is dissolved in water. Apparently the Co-op are introducing it later this year. Its meant to be more ecologically sound.

I provided a link to the BBC story about this in an earlier post on this thread.

I was reading recently that even if you specify in your Will how you wish your body to be disposed of there is no legal requirement on the part of the Executor to do so.

My husband wants cremation with no mourners, no service etc and the ashes scattered in our horses field and I want cremation with my ashes buried with my parents in my childhood village.

My friend is a volunteer for RNLI and every few months they do a service at sea and scatter ashes for people. Her husband died recently so she is having that.

I've just been reading about Aquamation where the body is dissolved in water. Apparently the Co-op are introducing it later this year. Its meant to be more ecologically sound.

If money were no object, and it was allowed, I would love to have a Viking funeral, I am sure there would be plenty of people willing to fire flaming arrows into the longship! 😁😂

I've favoured a cremation for years, as it somehow seems more final, if that makes sense, and perhaps makes it a little easier for those left behind to move on. However, I've recently been giving some thought to a woodland burial here in beautiful rural Northumberland. There's a site we drive past on our regular trips to bonny Berwick upon Tweed, which offers a wildflower meadow in a deciduous woodland glade. Not that I'll know much about it, but my family might like the idea, as we've always been very "outdoorsy". Must discuss it with them.

Oldbat1

Donating your body to medical science isnt always possible - paperwork all needs to be in order for it to be actioned when the time comes and some causes of death means body cant be accepted. I know one family who were successful and one who wasnt.

That is absolutely correct. My mother wanted to donate her body, but at the time, our local teaching hospital had their full quota of bodies and couldn't accept it. So if this is what you would like, you need to have a 'Plan B' in place, just in case the body isn't accepted for whatever reason.

Burn and return for me, all paid for..🤓

Right at this moment as I read this thread I am trying to sort out a headstone for my mum's mum/dad/grandma.

My mum left an amount of money and the week before she died she said I know what I would like to do with that money. That was for her parents/grandparent to have a "proper" headstone in the churchyard. They never had one only a home made one which was fine, but had rotted or been taken away.

But to be honest we are prob talking around £2,000 just for a basic black headstone and lettering and then the other bits and pieces.

It may sound bad but I feel the money could have gone to something maybe a bit more natural like planting lots of trees or donating some towards things.

But because it was my mum's almost final wishes I have and want to carry them out, I am not intending to spend the whole lot as I want to do a bit of something else with what's left, maybe a bench or something that people may use for a long time.

So yes writing down and letting people know before hand is good.

Donating your body to medical science isnt always possible - paperwork all needs to be in order for it to be actioned when the time comes and some causes of death means body cant be accepted. I know one family who were successful and one who wasnt.

MerylStreep

Blondiescot

What about this? Anyone interested? Personally I think it's a great idea - any new alternatives to conventional cremation or burial are surely to be welcomed.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66081058

In some quarters it’s being referred to as boil in the bag cremation 😱

Newspapers love a snappy headline!

cremated, no service and scatter my ashes anywhere, my son is okay with this and as he is my only child i want to make it as easy as possible for him.

Blondiescot

What about this? Anyone interested? Personally I think it's a great idea - any new alternatives to conventional cremation or burial are surely to be welcomed.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66081058

In some quarters it’s being referred to as boil in the bag cremation 😱

What about this? Anyone interested? Personally I think it's a great idea - any new alternatives to conventional cremation or burial are surely to be welcomed.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66081058

My plan is to live forever - gong well so far!

It's interesting to read about everyone's preferences for cremation or burial. Personally, I lean more towards burial.

Fleurpepper

What do you mean by 'huge', out of interest.

Sorry, can't remember; I enquired a few years ago and just immediately knew that it was out of my price range! I'll try and find out and post it tomorrow.

What do you mean by 'huge', out of interest.

Cremation is really NOT ecological at all

This is what worries me. Yet burial is hugely expensive and I don't want my children to have to spend shedloads of money on laying me to rest. Is it better to have a non ecological cheap cremation and leave the money burial would have cost to my children (perhaps with a charity people can donate to), or to be buried in a natural burial ground and return the body slowly to the earth as most animals do? There is a beautiful place nearby where such burials are done, but when I found out the cost it was huge.

That is good to know, because not many long ago, we have had friends who had to wait months- which is unbearable to my mind.

Sorry,F, only just seen this now. Timespan a week max I'm told by the local crem.

Kim19

Speedy private cremation for me. All sorted with sons.

When you say 'speedy' what do you mean? What is the average waiting time these days?

My body is down for donation. That’s if it’s still in good enough nick for them to want it.
When speaking to the organisation I asked if I was too old, 70 at the time, they told me they had received a body of someone who was 106 😄

I have already paid for my (unattended) cremation and the ashes will be delivered to my eldest daughter. Like M0nica, I think the idea of being 'recycled' into the ground is appealing, still I'll settle on having my ashes scattered in woodland - anywhere will do - some extra minerals for the trees!