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Can you believe a mother would do this?!

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GranolaGran Tue 12-Mar-19 10:16:01

www.theguardian.com/world/2019/mar/12/saudi-plane-turns-around-mother-forgets-baby-airport

shock

Imagine the heart attack!

Nanagem Wed 13-Mar-19 22:52:42

Not left, but .... had a mad morning, baby was demanding, washing machine flooded, suddenly 11.50 and had to collect son from nursery at 12. Throw baby in pram grap coat and ran the 15 minute walk, going passed school looking to see if no 1 son outplaying as I ran past, suddenly hit me, baby in pram, son in class, where’s no2 son, panic, where have I left him. Oh yes nursery !

GrandmainOz Wed 13-Mar-19 22:03:09

There was a pop art wall poster I saw a lot in the 90's. A glamorous woman with a shocked expression and a thought bubble above her head "oh my God, I left the baby on the bus". I remember seeing it a lot. (It obviously resonated?)

Harris27 Wed 13-Mar-19 15:43:25

I left my son at the bacon counter in asda hubby was pushing the trolley then we swapped over he was pushing buggy and I the trolley we were at the checkout before we realised he was still there! Son often tells people that I traumatised him and never eats bacon!!!!

Franbern Wed 13-Mar-19 15:08:06

Back in the early 1970's it was normal to leave small baby sleeping in large pram parked up outside of shops. I had a dog, and he would lie down next to pram when I went into shops, Unless people knew him, he was a good method of preventing people touching the pram, - those who did know him also knew that the worst he would do would be jump up and lick strangers!!!
I left my darling first born, outside a shop when he was a few weeks old, as I walked down the High Street I kept trying to hang the pram bag back on his hooks at the front of the pram, then I realised what I had done.
A few years later, when we were being advised locally not to leave prams, babies, etc outside (a baby had been snatched from a pram not too far away), I can remember having a serious row with library staff. Wanted to take my 4 yrs and 5 yrs old children in (during the week, it was not busy), but had a 18 month toddler in an umbrella type pushchair and they told me I had to leave her outside. At the same time they were permitting elderly people take inside their wheeled shopping trolleys. I insisted on taking all three of my children in with me, defying them, telling to call the police (they did not), but also I went to the local newspaper and a photo and an article in there a couple of weeks later, and libraries were instructed not to prevent these small, narrow pushchairs from going inside.

Telly Wed 13-Mar-19 14:44:37

Imagine just leaving a baby outside a shop, or anywhere nowadays! You can't safely leave your dog.

NfkDumpling Wed 13-Mar-19 14:37:57

`I thought Baby Brain was a sort of temporary dementia brought on by recent motherhood and lack of sleep. It also dims the memory of what pregnancy and child birth are really like.

Gonegirl Wed 13-Mar-19 14:05:01

I think "baby brain" means a new mum cannot think of anything apart from the baby. I don't think it's a catch-all for forgetfulness. It's a protective thing for the child.

Margot3 Wed 13-Mar-19 13:43:42

I've been left outside a shop when I was a baby. My mother told me she quickly walked back to get me. I told her, "you mean RAN?!" Nope she walked back because she believed I'd be fine...and I was! Baby brain definitely exits!

Mapleleaf Tue 12-Mar-19 18:38:58

I remember my Mum telling me the story of a neighbour a few doors away who left her baby outside in its pram overnight at the bottom of the garden! She had a large family of about 9 children and apparently didn’t realise that the baby was still outdoors. shock
It really did happen, it wasn’t a tall story.

callgirl1 Tue 12-Mar-19 18:15:57

I left one of mine outside the shop round the corner, but didn`t realise for about 30 minutes. Went rushing back, the lady who owned the shop said "We`ve been betting on how long before you came back!"

rascal Tue 12-Mar-19 15:45:39

Our daughter was only a few weeks old. She was sleeping in the carrycot on the floor ready for my husband to carry her out to the car. He had put our three year old son in his car seat. I had had a C section so was to take it easy so no lifting. We were ready to leave. I locked up. Husband was starting the car. I got in the passenger seat, turned round to check everything was alright. No baby! She had been left sleeping in the house! hmm

GrannyGravy13 Tue 12-Mar-19 14:54:03

After sitting behind a family whose baby screamed for the whole duration of a 4 1/2hour flight, I sincerely wished they had left the child behind.

Yes I do know babies cry, having flown with all ours the youngest being 9 days old on his first flight.

Jomarie Tue 12-Mar-19 14:52:51

I haven't actually forgotten a baby or left it behind somewhere but I do have a recurring dream where I forget I've got a baby or where I am aware of the baby but neglect to wake it up and apparently (in my dream that is) let it sleep for days unfed, unchanged and in a different room !!! Always wake feeling slightly disturbed for the rest of the day confused

SueDonim Tue 12-Mar-19 14:39:07

I've just remembered a woman I knew who forgot her baby several times. She did have five children so I suppose it was quite easy to mislay one of other of them!

She went to visit a friend in hospital and got home to a phone call (pre-mobile days) from the hospital to say she had left her handbag behind. She went back and collected it, then as she was leaving the car park someone came running out to say she'd now left her baby on the ward.

She had a cleaning lady, who went in one day to work in the empty house. Imagine her shock when she entered to dining room, to find the three-month-old baby fast asleep in a bean bag!

Anja Tue 12-Mar-19 14:26:51

My DiL arrived at our house one day and stopped for a coffee. After about 20 minutes I enquired ‘where’s xxx?’ (my granddaughter) thinking my son might be looking after her.

DiL paused, coffee cup half way to her mouth, frozen in horror. She’d forgotten she had the baby and had left her in the car parked down the street. Luckily it was a cool day and she was still fast asleep.

BlueBelle Tue 12-Mar-19 14:10:11

Never left a baby behind but my youngest daughter got involved with chatting with a friend over a coffee in the airport lounge and totally forgot her big suitcase full of ten days worth of clothes and holiday items She was very very lucky as two day# later it was delivered to her hotel (she is the scatterbrain in the family)

sunseeker Tue 12-Mar-19 14:03:47

An often told story in the family is of when my mother left me in my pram outside a shop. She got the bus back home and it wasn't until she walked into the house and my father asked where I was that she remembered! She had to wait for a bus to take her back to the shops to find the shop assistants, thinking I had been abandoned had taken me into the shop and were discussing who they should call!

Iam64 Tue 12-Mar-19 13:56:56

My mother left the 3 month old baby in her pram outside the shop. Mum was busy assembling the evening meal when she shouted "where's the baby". She soon remembered and ran like the wind to find the baby still asleep in her pram - phew.

boat Tue 12-Mar-19 13:28:16

I left my three week old son asleep in his pram outside a department store. Unfortunately I came out through a different door so there was nothing to nudge my memory.

I was halfway up an extremely long hill before I began to get an uneasy feeling that I had forgotten something. I checked my shopping list and everything was crossed off. Then I realised my shopping bag was a bit light for every thing on the list to be in it.

That's when I started haring back because I remembered tucking some items down the side of the pram. He was still snoozing so no harm done but I felt wretchedly guilty.

SueDonim Tue 12-Mar-19 13:01:36

My dad left my brother in his pram outside a post office. When my irate mother ran to collect him, bro had managed to get into the shopping which dad had done and was covered in fish scales and herring guts. grin

notanan2 Tue 12-Mar-19 11:45:27

I lay down "for a minute" after dropping my DD at nursery and ended up in an exhausted sleep all day! I woke up having missed pick up time. I ran all the way there. Felt like the worst mother in the world.

It happens to every tired babybrain mum it just doesnt usually involve a whole plane!

Anja Tue 12-Mar-19 11:44:41

OMG! Imagine, thinking ‘I’m sure I had something else with me.....the baby!’

Poor woman.

EllanVannin Tue 12-Mar-19 11:41:41

In the past I've come away from stores with having left shopping or parcels on or near a counter because I've been pre-occupied with getting back to the pram outside------but never without the child.

I'd have probably done the same on a plane, picked up the child and left everything else behind.

I have to be different I suppose !

sodapop Tue 12-Mar-19 11:33:55

Something seriously amiss with the mother as well B9 to lose one child is careless to lose two children .................

B9exchange Tue 12-Mar-19 11:32:07

It is odd what you can do in stressful situations, we left 7 month old son in his carry cot on the floor of the living room when moving house. We had filled up the van to move ourselves, putting him in the empty living room until the last minute, and then locked up and drove off! Fortunately we only reached the end of the road before checking the back seat of the car.....!