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Supper or Tea or Dinner?

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Lily65 Tue 14-May-19 19:07:24

It's dinner here around 5 pm. Sometimes we call the same meal tea.

OPgrndtr Sat 18-May-19 20:53:26

DH and I have really smileenjoyed reading this thread. I find it fascinating, but DH who would eat gravy on anything at any time went wild with the term "Gravy Dinner ". He thinks he has the GN seal of approval to have that meal from now on.

GeorgyGirl Fri 17-May-19 10:29:49

Depends. Either very late afternoon tea, or an early dinner :-)

Gemmag Fri 17-May-19 10:20:34

Breakfast. 7.30ish, porridge
Coffee with biscuit/cake 11am ish,
Lunch, soup/sandwich 1pm ish,
Cup of tea (cake if you’ve got a friend visiting) you always ask if it’s,informal. 3pm ish,
Dinner 7pm ish, meat/fish, potato and loads of veg.
Some fruit, yogurt later if peckish before bed.

We have a light supper if we’ve been out to lunch or had a big meal instead of lunch for whatever reason.

M0nica Fri 17-May-19 07:56:53

High tea goes back a long way. It is mentioned in a lot of literature. Originally it was a tea with lots of extras eaten on a Sunday. Could be cooked food (as mentioned further up the thread) but also tinned salmon and other fancy comestibles.

BlueBelle Fri 17-May-19 07:33:58

I do still think it’s tied to class as further up the country you go you had a higher percentage of manual workers and ‘darn sarth’ much more business and white collar workers
Can you imagine a pitman having ‘lunch’ or a banker having ‘dinner’ midday with their colleagues in the local bistro ?
As the generations have changed the country tends to be more trendy and follow the capital
I bet if you had a poll it would come out as a north south divide with breakfast dinner tea and supper having been used central and upwards and breakfast lunch and dinner /supper being London and south
What was Wales, Cornwall west etc anyone from there?
I still think of breakfast dinner and tea but go out to lunch with my friends so I m a mixed up kid
Never heard of High tea until this new trend couple of years back

M0nica Fri 17-May-19 07:02:06

I have lived 'south of the Watford Gap' for about 70 years and I haven't talked about 'dinner' for any meal except a formal meal with all the trimmings (nice china etc, guests) and often, not even then, certainly since I married (1968) and probably earlier and I am not sure I have heard many other people use the term now.

I think the change is tied into more informal eating and the growth of the big kitchen/family room and the end of the formal dining room.

Lily65, I too grew up with the 1lb of meat for 4 people, but, without any conscious intention, for us it has now fallen to about 2 oz. We prefer casseroles and stews to lumps of meat (roasts, steaks) and, as I have gradually increased the quantities of vegetables in casseroles and stews and more clearly portion controlled, so the number of portions in a casserole has increased from 4 to 8.

Lily65 Thu 16-May-19 21:10:53

Esspee, interesting, so two cooked meals a day and small portions.
When I was growing up one pound of meat was for 4 of us, it seems to make sense. Smaller meals.
I have an abiding memory of Scottish High Tea, the table all set, side plates, butter knives, elbows off the table.... a bygone age.

lincolnimp Thu 16-May-19 17:27:09

I must add that we talk about dinner time, then have lunch!!!!!!

lincolnimp Thu 16-May-19 17:25:45

Lunch (cold/sandwiches, salad) is anytime between 12 and 3.00, 4.15 is our 'quarter to five' cup of tea and piece of fruit, and tea or 'hot' is anytime between 7.00 and 10.00pm, depending of either of us have had an evening event

maryhoffman37 Thu 16-May-19 10:44:29

We have our dinner at 7.30pm, sometimes 7pm. Have never called it tea as that beverage is not involved. (I drink tea at 3pm or 4pm.)

MamaCaz Thu 16-May-19 08:02:03

I grew up with breakfast, dinner, tea and supper, the latter being a couple of biscuits or bowl of cereal before bed.

Not once in my childhood did I hear the cry of "come in for your lunch" when it was time for friends to stop playing and head home to eat.
Nowadays, it is all very mixed up.

I've lived 'darn sarf' (well, sort of - just south of the Watford Gap, anyway) for over 30 years now, where most people nowadays seem to have lunch and dinner.
Gradually, I've gone over to saying 'lunch', but it still really grates on me to say 'dinner' instead of tea, so only do it occasionally, if I think the listener might get confused otherwise. My posher grandchildren soon got used to the fact that what they call dinner is called tea at Grandma's. We have a laugh about it sometimes ☺
I don't mind what words people use for these meals, as long as they don't sneer at other people's versions, as if their own preferences are somehow the only 'correct' ones!

Esspee Thu 16-May-19 07:57:06

Glasgow here. It used to be breakfast, dinner, tea then supper. The main meal was in the middle of the day and the menfolk would come home for their dinner. Over time the average working man moved farther from their work so the main meal moved to evening.

I remember a typical breakfast with porridge, or cornflakes or something cooked liked scrambled egg on toast for a weekday. Full Scottish breakfast at the weekend.

Midday dinner might be home made soup followed by steak pie, potatoes and veg. and tea something like pork chops and chips followed by pudding.

Supper was a little something to ward off nighttime starvation such as tea with fruit loaf or cheese and oatcakes.

Morning coffee with home made cake or biscuits was the exception rather than the rule, as was afternoon tea with sandwiches, scones and cakes. They were reserved for when we had guests.

High tea was a special treat in which we ate out before going to the circus or the theatre, perhaps one or twice a year. I remember lemon sole, chips and peas served with real lemon wedges and bread and butter followed by cakes. I thought eating out the height of sophistication.

Reading that I do wonder why we were able to say so slim. Portion sizes were small though. One pound of meat for four, and of course we didn't have a car so walked a lot.

Aepgirl Thu 16-May-19 07:08:31

I call it 'supper' and it is about 6.30 pm.

GrauntyHelen Thu 16-May-19 03:33:13

Husband has dinner at 1230 I have lunch . Sometimes we have main meal tea between 5 and 7 most often main meal dinner around 8 Supper is never a meal mearly a pre bed snack here

GrandmainOz Thu 16-May-19 02:54:27

Just occurred to me that in all the years we've been married, I refer to the evening meal as tea, and my husband calls it dinner. Only just occurred to me upon reading this thread.
We're both southerners. OH grew up in an upper middle class home, whereas was from the good old aspiring working class smile
And it's also made me recall that OH's parents refer to an evening meal at home as supper but OH has never said that.
Well it seems I cook tea for when OH returns from work 7.00p.m-ish and we then eat dinner grin

Evie64 Wed 15-May-19 23:56:01

When I was young, in working class London, we have breakfast, dinner and tea. Now it's Breakfast, lunch and dinner. When it changed? Not a clue. Supper? Nah, that's just for posh people innit? smile

callgirl1 Wed 15-May-19 21:51:52

Phoenix, we have a living room with a settee, in our other house it was the front room, but in this house it`s at the back.

lemongrove Wed 15-May-19 20:31:04

I like the sound of all of them Marmight ?

Marmight Wed 15-May-19 20:28:33

Breakfast
Lunch
Tea (vicar's sandwiches & cake)
Dinner
Or:
Brunch
High Tea
Supper

Shizam Wed 15-May-19 20:23:14

I’m a southerner so it’s lunch and dinner. And yet, why at school did we call the staff dinner ladies?!

GrannyGravy13 Wed 15-May-19 19:56:48

Well our routine is out the window today.......pub lunch at 3pm (fresh haddock, homemade tartare sauce, chips and peas) so my “dinner” is a nice glass of chilled Sauvignon blanc. Husband is out and I have a GC sat on my feet playing on my iPad before “bedtime story” - blissful.

Glammy57 Wed 15-May-19 19:43:07

Phoenix, you do make me laugh! In our house it’s sofa and drawing room, never lounge as those are only found in hotels and airports. Some of my friends mock me for saying “drawing room” but c’est la vie! ?

Glammy57 Wed 15-May-19 19:31:03

Lunch is eaten between noon and one o’clock. Dinner is served between 6pm and 7pm. In my opinion, supper is a light, casual snack of cheese and crackers or something similar. Tea would be served between 3.30 and 4pm and would consist of Earl Grey and cake - rare occasion for us!

Grandmama Wed 15-May-19 19:12:19

For us northerners: Dinnertime is mid-day. Tea-time is about 5pm. For some people tea-time might be around 4pm if you are posh and having dinner at 8pm.

If we had supper it would be a bedtime drink and small snack but we don't have supper.

If invited out for Supper I would expect it to be an informal evening meal.

Years ago I confused a new friend - Italian and newly arrived in the UK - by inviting her round for Sunday dinner. When Sunday arrived she was expecting an evening meal and wasn't able to join us as she was busy over lunchtime.

harrigran Wed 15-May-19 19:07:46

Breakfast, lunch and dinner is the meal at 7.30.
When I was a child I had 4 meals a day, breakfast, lunch, tea and supper.