Good morning! Long post alert!!!
Just really want to share my disappointment and anxiety of the moment .
About a year ago , after my Mam , died , I posted about the possibility of moving house.
We have waited and now the time seems right .
We saw a house we loved , had an offer accepted and put our own home on the market at a very good price.
Immediately the sign went up our next door neighbour was knocking on the door , wanting her sister to view .
They're Chinese and want to live next door to each other .
All weekend they were knocking on door . They made a low offer , as is the game , but this was increased after negotiation and we accepted on Monday afternoon .
All lovely and exciting!
So , solicitor contacted etc etc and moving forward .
Yesterday, got a text message that they were withdrawing the offer!!!
They blamed complexities of getting cash from China!,
Who knows !! They communicate through the teenage niece who is very sweet so all I could say is that I was sad.
I've been waiting to escape this city for 30 years and a tantalising light at the end of a tunnel was waved before my eyes .
We did have several other viewings last weekend but no one wanted the house . I know its early days though .
I'm scared now that our house won't sell .
It's a lovely family home , 4 bed with a beautiful garden which is our pride and joy . Sadly , the garden is 100 yards long and I think everyone wants " low maintenance " , don't they ?
So, I'm feeling like it's over. We won't sell ; we will lose the house I really want and I'm here till I die.
I know there will be other houses to buy if we lose the one we want but it is a very unique house, not your usual modern houses . A 1905 Edwardian terrace, beautifully restored at a brilliant price in a place we want to be .
It's not often I'm so set on getting anything
I call myself the " Compromise Queen " because I will always give in to another person in opinion or choice ( usually husband ) and I can always feel that others positions and desires are more valid than mine .
However , I really want this house.
We could afford to buy the house we want out of savings though it would clean us out . We would also incur £8000 stamp duty for having second home ,though this is refundable when this house sells !,
We could borrow from our son too .
They earn very well and £210 k is not a lot for them except that doesn't feel right to me as a mummy !
To top it all , our daughter in Edinburgh, who has a 2 week old baby ,is having bouts of severe abdo pain ( probably gall stone colic ) and I should be going there but I'm so exhausted by the house thing and so worried .
I tend to be like a rabbit in headlights in times of stress. Totally incapacitated and unable to do every day things .
Sorry to waffle for so long .
What do you all think?
Should I just stop dreaming of the impossible and accept I'm doomed to be trapped in this city till I die . That's melodramatic , I know , but we only came for 2 years in 1985 and I feel I am stuck for ever now!
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