My hubbie and his brother went to the same school, both of them married local girls. His brother went on to Uni and successful and highly paid career.
Hubbie decided not to go to Uni, (he was he eldest and their Dad died when he was 16), took an apprenticeship, but left after a year. After we were married, he took exams, via evening classes, and qualified as a chartered Secretary. Then the blow struck = he developed MS.
We had five small children, but back then he found it extremely difficult to get any organisation to give a job to someone in a wheelchair.
For years we managed on benefits, whilst his brother went on to become a very high earner.
When our children complained about the things they could not have (holidays abroad, designer clothes, etc.) we always told them to Look Down, not UP.
In world terms, they were still much closer to the top of the pile than the bottom. If they compared their lives to those of refugee children, or those living on the streets in different countries, dying from completely curable diseases, perpetually hungry, cold, abused - then our children - were very much the lucky ones.
Eventually, our marriage fell apart under the strain (adversity does not always drawn people together). but - amazingly, all five of the children went on to Uni (days prior to fees needing to be paid - not sure if they would have in those circumstances), all came out and have good professional careers - in different service/caring professions. All are lovely, caring people.
Do need to realise that for most of us in this country we are so fortunate, and even when we are part of the 'have-nots' we have so much more than much of the population of the world today.
We do not have to leave our homes (however pathetic they may be) as we are being shot at, or in danger of being bombed to smithereens, we do not have to traipse thousands of miles to try to find safety, and risk everything in unsuitable dinghies to cross seas, etc.
Yes, some people have more fortunate lives than others, but we all at times need to LOOK DOWN instead of UP to appreciate how lucky we have been to be born when and where we have, and that is totally just the luck of the draw.