Things you lend out and never see again....

I love the idea of taking a photo of the item with the borrower Purpledaffodil, but wonder if I would ever do it!

I think I’ve probably got some of your books here. People keep lending me them and I’m always sure I’ll remember who 6 months down the line when I’ve finished it.....

I Loaned really treasured books to a work colleague years ago as she was complaining she had nothing to read. I asked for them back about five or six months later and she gave me an extremely blank look and walked off. The following week she handed me about half a dozen battered old paperbacks (some from when they were stationed in Cyprus with the army ~years beforehand) none of which were mine. They were simply not my kind of books, just cheap romance novels from charity shops. I was heartbroken- but it was a lesson to me, I never loan books to anyone that I cannot trust to look after them nowadays. We are reluctant to lend our neighbour any power tools also, because he usually manages to break them without saying a word when he hands them back. I also loaned an ex friend some new socks once, she made no attempt to return them back to me. Note to self- never a lender or a borrower be.

I do not generally loan things out as they never get returned! My neighbour has a 'Loan Book' that he logs everything in he lends out along with the date & as everyone knows about it they are not surprised when he asks for anything not returned by the outstanding date. A simple solution that is effective.

Books n clothes

I lent a college student who was in my year a set of my A level notes. I knew her fairly well but she wasn't in my close circle. When I left at the end of my third year I didn't get the notes back, she was staying on for a fourth year. I wrote to her at our college address asking for them back as I needed them for a course I was doing. She never sent them but cashed the cheque I'd sent her to cover the postage. Still after 50 years.

MY dh occasionally lends his tools to friends, neighbours etc and does not always get them back. I have told him to note down who has what as he forgets, but he never does. I tend to give items like books I have read, rather than lend. I lend large items to my dc or sisters but they always send them back.

Oh, and I lent a colleague a poetry book, and when I asked if she still had it she denied all knowledge of it. But we were at dinner at her house one night and I spied it on her bookshelf. I don't know how but it was in my handbag when I got home.....

have asked b4 can someone explain all abbreviations plz eg
gn=great neice
gg= great grandson
some i can work out others i cantthank you

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My Aunt crocheted a beautiful christening gown for my first born. I loaned it to my brother for his childs christening some years later. He didn't use it and he has never returned it.

This post is bad for my blood pressure but here goes - books, now I refuse to lend but offer to buy a copy. Gardening equipment - we have a seasonal item that takes up a lot of space, lent it out asked for it back, discovered that it had been passed around and after asking every day for two weeks, was returned broken. Borrower asked again this year and I have said no, not working properly - indignant borrower and lender. Ladders. Have to ask for them back. Chargers. Wet weather clothing when people come to stay - in spite of knowing it is a very wet place. Will say goodbye actually wearing borrowed items!!!!!!! At uni, one student used to ask to borrow a clean pair of knickers on a Saturday night - never asked for them back, was never offered. My daughter said it still happens at uni - and you can buy a multipack for a pound in the bargain bin in certain shops ?

Stopped there to calm down.

A friend borrowed a dress and jacket to wear to a wedding. The jacket came back, she had 'kindly' put the jacket through her washing machine, shame it was dry clean only. She had forgotten to put the dress through the machine so she qod go e me that back another time, still waiting....

Not lent out, but borrowed.
A friend loaned me a copy of a book which seemed very old, I read it and my DD who was 12 at the time picked it up and opened it too far and the spine broke, all the pages fell out?
I spent the following week on the phone like J R Hartley trying to get a copy of the same edition. Finally got it from Amazon. Returned it to my friend and she said, “oh, you don’t need to return it, I gifted it to you”.
It was a good read though, my son borrowed the good copy only last week. I will want it back though!!

I like your style Bluesapphire !
In similar vein, an uncle allegedly wrote his name inside books, sneakily, which he then claimed were his.
I now wish I could start a library. DH has a habit of rescuing books.

I never lend books, if my youngest daughter asks to borrow one, I say no, but I’ll buy one for you. I lent some to a neighbor once to take on holiday, the state they came back in, I can’t tell you!!

Yes strangely enough,about 10 yrs ago,my SIL saw id got one of those contraptions that 'excercise' your tummy muscles for you,(you attach the pads& the electric current does the work) it was in its own case,with all attachments etc,very expensive,he borrowed it and i hadnt even used it,i never saw it again& they didnt even mention it! I did once mention& ask what happened to it but my daughter said "oh i don't know,may have been in loft in old house"(they moved about 4 years ago)more like on ebay if i know my SIL! Its a flaming cheek though isn't it? I wouldnt dare take liberties with anything i borrowed- i used to have a neighbour years back like auntieflo's- they even asked to 'borrow' some electricity via a cable run through window when they had theirs cut off & she wanted to watch wimbledon! stupidly i said yes as i wasn't a tennis fan and i didn't know then how long wimbledon actually goes on. Also,like Gillybob,i sent a plated up meal round to my sons house for DIL,when they lived round corner from me(last surviving plate from a set id loved) and she still has it and wont give it back! That was when my GS was a baby,hes 14 now also,same DIL, used a new superheroes plastic mug (new) at my house,& cause its a superhero she likes,she took it home with her( my yongest son,(then about 13) only had it about 2days!(wondering now if shes a kleptomaniac)

One of My daughters is also good at borrowing books/dvds that i never usually see for a very long time,or ever again in some cases! Mostly annoying if ive not read/ watched them first,so in future im going to make her wait till ive had 'first dibs' on them

Well done Bluesapphire on 'liberating' your book! If she had asked you too could have denied all knowledge

Im afraid Nonnajazz,i would have just taken the book back at that point,declaring loudly," No i bloody well didnt give you it!"

Just to note,the SIL was SON IN LAW,not sister in law

I did mention on here some time ago that our neighbours who are swingers, often hold parties or “groupings” as they call it borrowed our Dyson, when it wasn’t returned after 3 days I asked them for it. She said that as they have more visitors than us can she keep our Dyson and let us have it when we need it.
Recently they asked did we have a spare mattress they could borrow. !!!! I said p***off.

Thats funny Marybelle I'm sure if I lent out my other half they wouldn't keep him for too long.
My sons often borrow items, we don't mind as its quite expensive to buy good quality electrical items, we usually get them back but they wouldn't be offended if we had to ask for them and would always return them when asked. They lead such busy lives & often forget.
My brothers the worst, used to keep everything he borrowed & wasn't till we needed it ourselves we'd realise he still had it & we had to fetch it back. We now tell him one of the sons has borrowed it so its not available.

Yes moggie57- the calculator is ESSENTIAL now in maths -gcse now has a whole paper on scientific calculator work!( my youngest is 16) He was lucky enough to 'inherit' his elder brothers calculator,as HE is very careful with things,youngest is not) so,on failing his maths(only gcse he failed) i thought,well hes still got calculator,turns out he couldnt find it& needed it replacing for resits in college this year!( i think maybe he donated it to his school when they begged for kids to donate any books,calculators,old uniforms etc at end of year, as he firmly was convinced he MUST have passed maths too!) Im not sure if hes kind,or just deluded!