Lots of wise advice here Luckygirl. When a neighbour's mother went into a very good care home because of advanced dementia, her husband was allowed to remain in his home until he died. When the house was eventually sold to release the owed money it did not provide the full amount. As my neighbour said ...they can't get blood out of a stone'. Obviously I don't know the whole story...only what my neighbour said but as I understand it, the amount raised by the house was released to the local authority and the LA had to write off the rest. Quite reasonable. Those without any funds are usually fully funded so when the neighbour's parents' funds ran out they were then in the same position.
Please don't rush into anything ...whatever they say. Of course every situation is different. Hope the meeting goes well. We are all rooting for you.
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs