Wrinkles. How do you cope?

Annecan....l expect more women on Gransnet use fillers and Botox but are worried about saying on this site. I have been using fillers for 10 years...l am now 71. They last a year sometimes longer. I have used Botox but it only lasts 3 months. I look natural and it works. I too have many other things to be worried about. My two daughters are survivors from cancer and my husband also has cancer. Most of us when we get to this age are affected in some way by sadness and illnesses and bereivment . It doesn't mean that l don't care about about my daughters because l take some time out to have a few filler injections once a year. l love my daughters and my husband very much . I am not obsessed by my looks but if you are considering having it done. Then l can highly recommend it. It isn't for everyone.....we are all different.Just do your research as l am sure you will. XX.

If I look in the mirror without my glasses my face is pure perfection!

Hetty58?
Silk scarf is a good idea Kitty.

Callistemon, it is said that, at a certain age, we have to choose between our face and bum. Plump means a better face and slim a better bum. I'm going for the face, myself, as the bum is never on public display!

Vanity is not one of my faults - I use anti-ageing skincare products randomly and thank my mother's genes for the fact that I only have a few fine lines at 50. My husband says I am beautiful to him, whatever I look like, and that is all that matters to me [wink}

I feel like some op's - better to be alive with wrinkles than dead. I have thinning hair, poor teeth and those horrible lines from the corners of my mouth to the chin. A close cousin, the same age as myself, had the best hair, teeth and skin of all the family who were around the same age, but she died seventeen years ago, never having had the pleasure of seeing her children getting married and going on to have children of their own. I often think of that when I don't like what I see in the mirror.

Definitely Callistemon! Now it's not the time to be thin!

Dare I say this?

Being a bit plumper helps.

I was hoping for some helpful responses to your post Annecan, not to read how lucky we are to still be here or to embrace our wrinkles. A long fringe, sun specs (summer and winter), nice bright lipstick and a smile. If your neck's a bit scraggy wear a silk scarf (winter and summer) look on line how to tie it- we're going for chic not grandma. Although you'll still have wrinkles they won't be so on display. Good luck.

I cope by not putting my specs on when I look in the mirror or put makeup on.

Jura2
Believe me, I have plenty to deal with ...wrinkles are just one thing on the list. Just thought it would be rather interesting to hear others experiences.
Please don't belittle anyone's concerns. They may be small to you, but that doesn't mean they are unimportant.

Some of us do find it hard to cope with looking old and wrinkled. I hate the thought of being treated differently because I am old....er.

Didn't mean to be unkind- but what got to me was the 'how do you COPE' ...

You are right of course Jura2 but we worry about wrinkles or kilos when we don't have anything more important to fret over. That is in the lull between a health scare, grown up children's problems, a partner's illness and so on.

I know- but ...

I have friends with cancer, or Parkinson, or MD or MS ...

so a few kilos or a few wrinkles- really? (sorry, but ...)

I've said this before but wear something shiny near your face. A shiny scarf, earrings or necklace or even glasses. You'd be surprised the difference it makes to your face. I wore a satin shirt recently and someone said I looked glamorous! (first time in years). Another time I wore a silk scarf and someone said, Oh look at you! I think dull fabrics make our skin look dull. As for wrinkles I once read if you make a rosemary tea and then when it's cold put it on your face by using cotton wool it helps wrinkles.

Love all the replies!
I have a fringe
I try to smile
I’m going for Botox and if fillers work then maybe that’s the way to go
My wrinkles make me feel old, but I do feel guilty for not being able to just accept and relax.
Great advice though and lots to try

I embrace my wrinkles as a sign I'm still here, and lucky. My best friend died aged 52, I've had ten more years than her now, still miss her.

M0nica in my case I don't like my wrinkles because they don't match the way I feel, which is much younger than my 70 years! I can see why women who can afford it/don't mind ops have it done.

Moisturise +++++++++ and keep smiling. I try to think of mine as character lines, signs of a life well spent

Laugh about it, have a good facial and a glass of wine. Some people don't live long enough to reach the wrinkly stage!

Best way I’ve found? Just 2 products , Matryxl and Granactive Retinol. Both from The Ordinary and each under a tenner! Also , avoid sugar like the plague- it breaks down collagen.

I try to be grateful that I have quite poor sight. I can't see details such as lines on any face - either mine, OR other people's! I'm also grateful for a husband who tells me that I look wonderful, even when I know full well that I don't - I can see and feel the bulges in my body that once was firm and slim!

I have a theory that this is the worst time of year for looking at your face in a mirror. I am sure I always look terrible in the winter. A light summer tan seems to lift the entire face, or maybe it just hides the wrinkles. I have noticed that people of colour often look younger than they are (meant as a compliment not any kind of racist remark) presumably because darker skin camouflages the blemishes and wrinkles. So there is hope - just wait until about June or July and everything might look better Annecan.

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