Oh, how I sympathize with you. Years ago we had a young black cockerspaniel. He was gorgeous, was able to learn how to go outside when he needed to, slept all through the night in his pet cage without a murmur, travelled well in the car, BUT the rest of the time was a living nightmare! Pinched any food wherever it was, dining table, kitchen counters, laps, etc., was totally made around the house and would not come back when called, except when he felt like it! He was so frightened of so many things, the hoover, food mixer and door bell! There is a web site somewhere especially for owners of Cockers - they will help you! Good Luck and ask Santa for a shed load of patience.