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Don’t tell me that! The things our adult children tell us that we wish they wouldn’t

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Calendargirl Sun 22-Dec-19 09:11:05

I know what you mean and sympathise. You want to help and support them in any way, but sometimes ignorance is bliss.

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Humbertbear Sun 22-Dec-19 08:38:14

morethan2- sorry I also wanted to say that I hope things are soon resolved for your offspring. It is a compliment that they felt they could confide in you but sometimes I think our children don’t realise we are getting older and don’t always want to know.

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Humbertbear Sun 22-Dec-19 08:35:31

I never told my parents any of my problems, even when I was bullied in primary school. I think we all just got on with it. My DS and DiL are having serious problems with two of their three children and we have become involved because we have been doing a lot of babysitting, often for the third child. The other grandparents are in blissful ignorance and , although I am grateful I can be there to offer support , I also wish I didn’t know what is going on.

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morethan2 Sun 22-Dec-19 08:25:58

When I was bringing up my children I clearly remember wanting to do it differently from my parents. One of the things I felt it was important was that they could talk/confide in me about anything. Oh there are times I wished I’d failed. There have been times I’ve wanted to put my hands over my ears and shout NO I’d rather not know that. It doesn’t help that you can’t share your concerns (well unless you have a sister like mine) with anyone. One of my adult children has recently shared something I wish I didn’t know. I’m not overly worried, or at least I don’t think I am! But as they were confiding in me I clearly remember thinking I would never ever have told my parents any of my personal problems. They were blissfully unaware of any of my troubles or at least I think they were. My father in particular would have hated to know anything that made us unhappy. I’m just musings really on how our actions no matter how well intentioned can come and bite us on the bum,

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