Unsure when to leave

You can not save him he is an adult and responsible for his own behaviour. As others have already said, go now. Do not wait around for him to find out and become more abusive. Stay safe.

Thankfully I've never been in your situation, but one punch would be enough for me, I'd be out!

Please, please GO NOW!!

Be careful not to leave any clues around the house that you plan to leave.
You don't need to tell him why you're leaving or make any arrangements regarding rent, bills etc. He's not worthy of your consideration now.

Go to your mother's. Would he look for you there?
Dump your mobile phone, get a new one. Or block his number and delete him from your contacts.
Check that your phone does not have a tracker on it.
Turn off GPS location on your phone.
Post NOTHING on social media regarding your move. Or temporarily close your account.

Do tell us when you are out and safe.
Good luck for a happier future.

I agree that you should leave ASAP. He has physically attacked you twice. Who’s to say what he may do next. If he ends up in a total mess, his fault. Make sure any financial aspects, such as utilities, are secured. Good luck. Must be awful. But lucky you have family to go to.

SANDY2020Get out off there now....I was in a abusive relationship and ended up in hospital...I got the usual I’m sorry I didn’t mean to I’ll change blah blah.
Even while I was in hospital he got his SIL to ring to see if I was ok..as soon as I took the phone he was on the other end.
I slammed the phone down and was in a right state.

When I went home I was terrified I’d sit on the floor against the wall in the dark.
I can see where your coming from...TBH you owe him nothing!!
I wouldn’t tell him anything about rent etc just go and go now
Stay safe ...please let us no how you get on I’ll be thinking off you?

Go now and thank your lucky stars you have your mother to go to. He has created this problem with his behaviour so don’t feel guilty.

Go now.
Don't delay.
I'd hate for a situation to arise where you get so badly beaten you can't walk away. Happened to me, my ex broke my back after many abusive rows.
Stay safe, sod the manchild. Time he took responsibility for himself. He's proven to you he does not care by hitting you. Why should you care about him.
Make sure all financial ties are sorted too.

Good luck. X

The word abusive causes me concern.How sure can you be that something won't set him off for which you will live to regret.Out now is my advice.

Ask yourself, if a friend was in your position what would you say? I reckon you would tell her to look after herself, she owes this pretty awful man, nothing. Equally, if you were my daughter I would be at your house tomorrow, with a van ready to take you and your bits and move you away. Let this mans parents help if he needs it or indeed the mental health services, though they are not that readily available in all areas. You are not responsible, life is too short, look after yourself.

Go now (and whatever you do don't let him know you are planning to leave!).

Yes go now - your safety comes first. But also, next time you're in a relationship (and I wish you a good and loving one), for goodness sake don't be with someone who expects you do to all the cooking and cleaning! You are not a servant. This is 2020 - hold out for equality. All good luck to you.

Get out now, leave him comfortable with bedding etc and a note to say rent is paid for 4 weeks and then contact his mum to let her know - it’s up to her if she wants to come and support.
Good luck.

Go now and do not look back - if he is such a wimp that he needs his Mother to sort him out, then let him contact her (doubt he will say why you went mind), and get her back to do his bidding!

Give notice on your tenancy but you just get out asap, go to your Mum's and leave, preferably when he isn't around to try and stop you, which he will try to do ..... are there any times when he disappears for a few hours? If in doubt about your safety maybe the Police could help you go? Pretty sure some of the Women's Refuge sites will be able to give you some advice too so may be worth giving them a call?

Good luck! x

I agree with notanan2. Leaving is a dangerous time so you should get proper advice from experts.
Ring a domestic abuse hotline and speak to people who really know. There are a lot of them. The Met police have one. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is probably the best known.
Your safety is the only thing that matters. He uses physical, emotional and coercive abuse. He is also unstable. You need to plan your move very carefully. Start doing it now.

Leave now. He doesn't deserve your consideration. Make sure he doesn't know you're going as he will do anything to stop you. Please let us know when you are safe.

Get out now!!!!!

Leave now. He is not your responsibility. His inability to act like a decent human being is not your problem.

GO NOW!

You can deal with putting utility bills in his name once you are at your mum's and notify your landlord from her address that you have moved out.

If your violent partner really is incapable of looking after himself that is just too bad. His parents, friends or social services can help him sort things out, if he really is unable to look after himself.

Leave now, and if he tries to contact you, refuse to see him, unless you are surrounded by people who can help if he becomes violent.

Go now. Do not wait.

He is an adult but haven't had to take responsibility, so leave now and stop making excuses for him. Go before the times up and tell him the tenancy finishes on this date so sort it out now. He has to start taking responsibility for himself and I bet he can, he is not your responsibility nor his parents. You can inform his GP and CPN if he has one. Stop being a door mat, get out and live.

Leave now. However he sounds like he may have mental health issues so you may want to see your doctor and let him know that he needs support.

Yes, leave ASAP! The first time he punched you was the signal to leave!

I would not stay until April, notanan2 is correct, making you feel his welfare is your responsibility a way of controlling you.

You are lucky you have somewhere to go. I stayed with my Mum in 2011 for 18 months as I had to escape a relationship. I remember after a few days, wondering what that feeling I had was. I realised a weight had been lifted from my shoulders and I was no longer walking on eggshells. I felt lightheaded with happiness.

Why are you still there? Get out now and be safe.

For once in your life, put yourself first. You have done enough. Just go!! You only have one life, live it!

Punched twice!! Why are you giving him a second thought, Get out ASAP and good luck

Go before YOUR mental health is ruined.