Unsure when to leave

You know, making you feel that his welfare is your responsibility is part of DV control!

You cant solve that. You can only walk away from it.

Leaving DV is messy. You will never have all the ends neatly tied up first. You are lucky that you have sonewhere to go so please dont delay x

Leave now Sandy there comes a time when you have to take care of yourself and you are there now. It does you credit to still care but your safety is most important. Good luck..

Go now.

He'll simply have to do all those things you've previously done - or get into debt.

Make sure you terminate all the financial responsibilities for utilities and rent and leave a letter for him (take a copy) telling him to sign himself up to the tenancy, gas, electric, phone etc.

You could also leave details of the local CAB or any help agencies (church, welfare etc) ...... and then go and don't look back.

You only get one life. Don't waste a moment more on this man. You must not put consideration for his mother before yourself.

Grannytomeny I'm leaveing as I cannot afford to stay here on a low wage

As soon as you are organised or earlier if you have any doubts you are unsafe. He is an adult and organised enough to be abusive so go without regrets!

Definitely leave now

You'll be surprised how capable he'll become without you there to sort him out

And good luck!

'has punched me twice in the past' !!! Just get out asap. You are not responsible for him anymore!

Now. Don't worry about him. Just go asap.

There are two key times when donestic violence is at peak risk of escalating to murder:
1. When the abused partner is pregnsnt
2. When the abuser becomes aware that their victim is seriously planning to leave them.

Leave now.

Yes, go now and get settled. Enough is enough

Leave now. The very instant that he punched you for the first time he lost any right to have his feelings considered. Put your safety first and leave now.

Your safety is paramount...

Go, don't look back. Stay safe x

Now

If you ve stuck it for years then I d wait and go in April when his Mums home to help him adjust, but that’s me

I’m not sure why, if you are the tenant rather than him, you’re the one who’s leaving. This might be easy to say I know but shouldn’t he be the one who leaves? Possibly to his parents’ house?

Might another option be for you to temporarily go to your mothers’, paying the rent in the meantime to keep your tenancy, and then, when your partner’s parents come home in April, insist that he leaves? This would also give you the opportunity to test the water living with your mother without burning any bridges.

I understand your compassion for his dilemma as well as concern for his parents work schedule- But you answered your own question as to when, when you said: "I cannot stick it"-

Whenever you are ready to leave, you will- Have a discussion with your feet and convince them to follow your heart and your head- I wish you all good things going forward-

If you were my daughter I would say get out now and let your partner take responsibility for him. What will happen if one of his parents are taken ill or some other unforeseen event occurs. He sounds like an unpleasant individual who has never learned to take responsibility for his actions.