Soop's kind, caring and sharing kitchen.

Izabella I too am horrified that you could possibly have encountered the attire you describe. There are no words harsh enough fo such people.
I went with DD, SIL and DGS yesterday to visit SIL’s mum in her new care home and it was lovely to see how settled and calm she was , the opposite of the last (also expensive) care hone where family were tearing their hair out at the noisy music (ABBA) in the background, the impatient staff and the lack of joined up thinking. One of them had to undertake the 30 minute+ drive every day to make sure she was fed, and frequently found her distressed, unwashed, lank greasy hair etc. They were heartbroken to see her lack of quality of life and to see her clearly not cared for.
Yesterday was the opposite - admittedly that awful disease has progressed and she only has intermittent speech but she was loved and cared for. Being 10 minutes walk from the family home, her DH can pop in several times a day or stay longer and best of all, the staff treat him like a partner in her care. It is a lovely former stately home with beautiful gardens which she will enjoy when the weather improves as she was always a keen gardener and even if she is not up to a lot of walking, will enjoy sitting in the sun.
It gave me hope.

I once again seem to have not have the time to pop in here. I always have good intentions but they go astray. I must do better. Isabella I always find your posts articulate and helpful.
You seem a wonderful person and don't know how anyone could make fun of and hurt you.

I too love your postsIzabella and am completely at a loss as to how any person can be so unkind. I’m hoping it was not a gransnetter who hurt you, you are much loved on this site, and I look forward to your posts, always so honest, interesting and positive.??????

Dear Izabella, dementia is such a cruel disease, without people being cruel about it.

Please do not let whoever has upset you get under your skin. I always enjoy reading your posts they are so descriptive and beautifully written

My time to log off until tomorrow. Looking through the window, I see watery sunshine. A calmer ('though skittish sea.) And...blue sky. Now that's what I call a bonus.

Did any of you watch 'Last Tango in Halifax' last night? I'm looking forward to the next episode. I wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of Celia!

Thinking of you all. I hope to return to our kitchen for catch-ups tomorrow.

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Izabella I have sent you a private message.

I am horrified that anyone can be cruel about Alzheimer’s or any other form of dementia. DH has the form associated with Parkinson’s and on some days it is hard work to understand what has triggered a comment or statement, though I can usually trace it back if I try hard enough.

Izabella’s lyrical pieces are a joy and give pleasure to many of us.

I do wonder at the mindset of certain posters and have learned not to read anything with certain names attached to them.

Izabella, my heart sinks if I imagine anyone being so cruel as to laugh at you or diminish you in any way. You are so courageous and so frank about the disease we all fear, that perhaps your attitude will rub off on us if or when one of us has to take the same road. xx

Oh Izabella how my heart sank when I read your post.
As you know my H had Alzheimer’s, I, not him, was on the end of some very cruel remarks and when he was really bad, if I repeated something he had done or said, some folk actually thought it was funny, can you believe that?

My thoughts are very much with you on your journey.
You are witty, erudite and your descriptive talent leaves me envying you.

Very best wishes to you both and I hope the apartment comes good.

Marydoll How is your health? I shall be visiting the oncology dept for my annual check-up in a few weeks. How time flies. (hugs)

Hello again, Sar53, I trust that you are not suffering from the dratted floods. I's moist here in bonnie Kintyre. So far this winter, we've not had too much trouble with adverse weather.

granniequeenie It was your b/w photos that I was referring to.

Dec46 Pop in as often as you wish. The more we get to know you and that tyke, Cassie, the happier we'll be.

silverlining48 Your post is lovely.

callgirl1 The old b/w photos are super special. My Nana worked from a very young age in a boot and shoe factory. H Long, noisy, poor working conditions were the norm.

Mornin' Baggs Hot Cross buns with lashings of real butter...now you're talking my language.

Izabella I cannot for the life of me imagine why anyone would derive satisfaction from making fun at your expense. You are a true inspiration. You are articulate, funny, full of life and much more besides. You amaze me with your positivity and sense of purpose. The kitchen is not any one thing. It is for the sharing of all things. All buggerations. All celebrations. All the stuff that we can glean some understanding from the sharing of. in abundance.

Izabella. Thanks for your powerful and moving post which describes so accurately how quickly life can change with such a diagnosis. You have such dignity and I wish you peace, love and sunshine

Izabella, thank you for that wonderful post which is so helpful for anyone touched by Alzheimer's. I'm in awe of your frankness in sharing your experiences with us.

izabella . I’m so sorry you’ve been on the receiving end of unhelpful and hurtful, words and behaviours. I feel sad for you.

Izabella, I too am sorry about how you are feeling Izabella. Your posts are an inspiration and I felt very sad last night after reading it. ?
Susan thank you for sharing the poem, I'm going to print it out..

Izabella, I dont know if something specific or lots of specific things have happened but I am sorry if you have been hurt. Thank you for posting though, it does us good to be reminded of the unintentional hurt we can cause. I think all kitcheners are in awe of your attitude.

That is a lovely poem Susan.

I love a good fondue baggs or I did when I could eat proper bread and am envious of myr baggs and his hot cross buns!

Busy day ahead for the Lesters so I'll be back later.

Good morning, kitcheners. Just popping in to catch up with everyone's news and events as I often do. You will forgive my lack of personal response skills for which many kitcheners are so famous. TOYA.

News from the Boggy Brae other than bogginess is that I managed to curdle a cheese fondu yesterday!! I'm an experienced cheese fondu maker and have made gazillions before. I'm blaming the garlic, or maybe the cheap wine. It was still edible, just a bit weird. And Toad (aka Mr-I-haven't-got-a-sweet-tooth-Baggs) ate six hot cross buns in one day ????.

Izabella,this is a poem that had great meaning for me when my aunt was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.I thought I would share it with you.

Oh Isabella. No words can follow that.

Not suggesting for a moment this applies to kitcheners as you have been wonderful and supportive:

PLEASE DON`T"
"Mock " my Alzheimer’s , i was once like you, i once worked full time I studied hard and gained degrees and qualifications. I had so many hopes and dreams, i STILL DO !! You don't even know me, you have no idea what i have achieved in the past and what i hope to still achieve now, please don't mock me just for being ill, i wouldn't if roles where reversed, you don't even know me, please dont mock me just because i have Alzheimer’s
PLEASE DON`T
" Stare at me, let`s stare together at the changes that are now being made within the world of dementia, let us stare together in wonderment at how the stigma of this disease is being disassembled before our very eyes, brick by brick the wall of Stigma is coming down.
PLEASE DON`T
"Ignore Me" i have so much to say, i have early stages of Alzheimer’s , have you even heard of that? Alzheimer’s doesn't just suddenly "Happen" it creeps up on you slowly, in stages, but if you LISTEN to me i can help you recognize the signs of early dementia so you can help your loved ones to carry on living a full life.
PLEASE DON`T
"Tell THAT Joke" about Alzheimer’s , i have heard them all, and they are not funny!! When you forget something, why do you think it's funny to say "Ha ha, i must have dementia" If you got a pain in the back or abdomen would you say "Ha ha, i think i may have Cancer ??? i think not!!! Alzheimer’s is a terminal disease with no cure at the moment, nothing much funny about that!!
PLEASE DON'T
"Write us off " We have so much to give, so much to do, so many more people to meet, to laugh with, to love, to cherish. So many more insights of the ways of the world, I am not finished, in fact i am just beginning to see life for what it really is, short, but beautiful, and so can you, if only you embrace it fully.
I am me,Isabella from the Shire who has been diagnosed with the awful disease of Alzheimer’s. please see me and not my disease

Oh GG13, what an awful tragedy for that young family, they must be in complete and utter shock.

GrannyQ, those photos brought back some memories, not all good ones though. Many years ago, I worked the evening shift in a Lancashire cotton mill, although by then it was man made fibres, not cotton. I hated the noise, it was deafening, and I never did learn to lip read as the other women did. I was a cone winder, my mother -in-law worked as a weaver. Suffice to say, I was pleased to get pregnant and leave the job.

I think there must have been something in the air last night because my Cassie,like Tara,wanted to go out at about 6am this morning,she usually is quite happy to sleep on my bed until I'm ready to get up as she always uses her litter tray indoors so never any urgency to get outside.Today she wouldn't let me sleep until I opened Patio doors for her and she then ran as fast as she could go round the corner of my house.Lord knows where she went or what she was after she arrived home about 1 hour later to settle down on the bed again.
I was able to do a bit of tidying up in the garden today as the weather was quite mild and dry this afternoon.
Thank you for your welcome messages ,they are much appreciated.Hopefully I will get to know you all in time and be able to acknowledge your posts but think I'm a bit brain dead at the moment !