Is revenge sweet?

I have never been in a situation where revenge was an option, but I think I would act with utmost casualness and move on so whoever was the object, was left knowing that I was totally untouched by their exit.

Revenge may be satisfying but the person at the receiving end can then boast about how angry/upset/dependent on them their partner was that they acted they way they did when they (the recipient) left.

I can understand wanting revenge but surely it takes you down to their level?
I'd rather be the better person and 'live my life well' as they will get their come-uppance in the end.
However, I was bullied terribly by a very nasty PE teacher and I enjoy my fantasy of pushing her into the large wicker hamper where we kept the equipment and fastening the buckle, then leaving her there all summer. I'd never actually do that though, it remains a fantasy. Does that make me wicked?

A neighbour's husband left her when her new baby was a few months old to move in with a 17 year old from work. He was in his 30's. She was devastated and a male friend, she had known for ages started to help out and they became close. 17 year old got fed up with the old guy and she left him after 6 months. He returned full of remorse to his wife and was shocked to find she had found someone better. No revenge on her part just the way it turned out

No I don’t feel revengful at all I ve had nasty incidents happen to me but I ve never felt the need to resort to that it just wouldn’t help me That sounds really pious and I m not but it just would t be on my radar
I think your post is not really revenge missA but about justice and I think that’s a very different thing

I can't be bothered with revenge. Best to just ride it out and move on, in my opinion.

I had an ex that was vengeful. Took revenge after I ended our relationship by taking me to court to try to force me to repay a debt in a lump sum (for a holiday we went on together, that I didn't really want and was coerced into). I was already repaying in monthly installments. The court REDUCED the monthly payment. I remember finding it hilarious at how it backfired.

Agree with Calendargirl here. I think contempt is the best action. I've blatantly ignored people who had been nasty to me in the past and thought they could just talk to me as if nothing had happened.

When I was young I had an boyfriend who was quite a drinker. Once when he did something I didn't like (I cannot even remember what it was! ) I threw away ONE of pair of awful, ugly boots he used to wear that I hated! He thought he had lost one while drinking!

After a small argument with her DH my DD put marmite ( which he hates ) in his sandwiches. He was not happy when he went to eat his packed lunch but we all laugh about it now.

I suppose I am fortunate not to have encountered anything that makes me want to carry out revengeful acts such as depicted on this thread. I don’t think I could though, even if things had been really awful.

I dont understand a need for revenge ,its taking yourself to a level thats probably as bad as the behaviour you're angry at.
Be calm and dignified and get on with life in the best way possible,surely thats the right way...let the ex or whoever see you're doing just great without them .Isn't that how adults behave?

That's brilliant MadeInYorkshire,!!

When I was younger I once used cheating ex toothbrush to clean the loo. I'd never take revenge now tho, I think it's best to just live your best life. Especially when children are involved x

Fabulous MadeInYorkhire. I wonder if she managed to resist the temptation at some point to tell him.

I do like the one about stuffing the round metal curtain poles with fish and leaving the house after being chucked out by the husband - over the next months the house is getting smellier and smellier but they can't work out why - in the end husband can't stand the smell and tries to sell but of course it won't because of said smell. Eventually ex wife says she will buy it off him very cheap, moves in and changes the curtain poles, job done!

I once read about a wife who before leaving the marital home her ex was going to be living in with his new GF, sewed prawns into the hems of the curtains.

I remember that incident with the expensive wines Elegran, it did make me .

I once reported someone for benefit fraud.
I was sick of seeing this person driving an expensive car, having numerous holidays and flashing £1000 handbags around.
She openly admitted she knew every angle re benefits and offered to help her friends and neighbours claim.
It turned out the fraud was huge! She had a house she claimed she lived in but it was in fact owned by her and let to relatives. Her post went to the modest address whilst she lived in much grander style with a partner.
She was claiming as a single mum.
She was investigated and found guilty.
I was thrilled.
Her lifestyle changed overnight!

I love those stories. I read recently about a lady who had discovered that her boyfriend wasn't working overtime....well at least not at work....so she sewed up all the button holes in his favourite shirts and then left. I bet his face was a picture when he went to get dressed up lol

Someone was in the news a few years ago whose (well-off) husband cheated on her in much the same way. she took all the bottles of expensive wine out of his wine cellar and left one on the doorstep of each of the neighbours. It was an expensive collection, amassed over years to "mature" so it probably stretched into nearby streets.

Another cut off the legs of all her ex's Armani suits.

Yes, revenge is sweet.